Lost_dragon wrote:
There are a certain factors that go into how I will react. It also depends on what it is that is being criticised. My mood plays a part in how I feel about criticism. I'll admit that it can be disheartening when I've worked for hours on something and the other person acts as though I've done the bare minimum. Especially if it's quite a personal improvement from the previous attempts. Or if I manage to figure something out that had me stumped and the response is "Didn't you know that already? Isn't that basic stuff?"
I go through phases of self-doubt and confidence. The amount that my confidence flips between "I'm doing well" and "everything I do is awful" probably isn't healthy. My friends and family sometimes call me out on my self-deprecating tendencies and how I tend to undersell myself. I'm trying to cut down on this and cultivate a healthier self-image.
When it's criticism on my personality or how I currently handle things I tend to be somewhat emotionally detached unless the person focuses on something that I am insecure about. I consider their statement and whether I agree with it or not. Then I change based on what I think is the best way to handle the situation. Of course, I'm not always right.
If I get criticised on how I handled a past event and I cannot apply that feedback to future events, then I might get annoyed. Sure, I could've done this or that, but I did not.
Recently, I realised something. That I was struggling with criticism because I was assuming that if no positive remarks were given then the person in question must automatically hate everything about my work. However, this is not true. A lack of praise does not necessarily equal disappointment or dislike. I tend to assume the worst. Sometimes it is good to ask the other person if they liked anything about the piece. Knowing that there are positives makes me more motivated to alter the criticised areas rather than just want to give up. Even if it's only a small positive.
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04 Apr 2020, 10:21 am
