alex wrote:
longNstrong wrote:
I read the article today. It was very moving. It evoked so much of what aspergers is like. At the end I really felt sorry for the author, myself, and all AS people. The things we miss and the gifts we have were all very well illustraited. Highly recommended.
Why did it make you feel sorry for people with AS? It didn't make me feel sorry at all.
Alex,
I have felt a lot of the same way he did: lost in many areas, particularly social ones. I also had some serious genius talents that went nowhere. I also needlessly caused others pain and needlessly made my life difficult by not recognizing my differences and making the most of them in a conscientious way. Certain particular things in his life really matched my experiences (Wagner and minimalism, no s**t!), like the failures with women and the disappointment of just about everyone around you. It all added up to a very, very familiar pastiche of fascinatingly wonderful differences and utterly heart-wrenching (for me, anyway) descriptions of what we do to drive NTs crazy.
I think your generation (not to sound like an old fart) has it a little better. AFAIK, you are in your early 20s and seem to have found good ways (WP, etc.) of dealing with AS. For the writer and myself, we made it well into adulthood while thinking that we were messed up in ways that really reflected badly on us. While I don't think I agree that we are "messed up" now that I know about AS , their is a nexus of pain and missed opportunity that can never go away. Thinking about my experiences as such and knowing about others having similar ones really made the article an intense experience for me. I just couldn't stop thinking about the pain that humanity has meted upon us, not because of hostility, but just simple ignorance. That made me feel very sorry for us with AS.