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19 Apr 2020, 5:31 am

graceksjp wrote:
Screaming tantrums is part of your individuality?!
I get not always wanting to bottle up your anger, lord knows I do terrible things when I try, but there are circumstances where its really in everyones best interest that you do. You can't always give in, and the more you do and get used to it, the more likely you'll slip in a moment when you actually really need to keep the peace. You do not want to be known as the person with anger management issues...that is not the way to go about your professional life. Maybe find a way to politely excuse yourself from whatever situation has you angered, and find somewhere private to release it?

https://www.quora.com/Why-do-people-tal ... -should-be You see, I was the one who asked this question. Because while it was traumatizing to realize there were reasons to care about what others said, my individuality was already halfway set by then, which means that means that certain parts of my individuality would get me in trouble if I were to unleash them fully.



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02 Jul 2020, 9:24 pm

Because I only learned to control my anger late, controlling my anger feels like, well, imagine trying to force yourself to do everything with the hand you don't currently use. No doubt you'd get used to it somewhat, but you'd probably still feel that something was off.



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03 Jul 2020, 1:52 pm

They didn't let me get away with it, but that didn't stop me because I had very little self-control and people shouting at me just made me shout back, louder. I only started to get some self-control when I was 11. It was around then that one of my teachers took me aside for a quiet word AFTER a meltdown, instead of trying to discipline me during it. I had the occasional incident after that (hell, I still do) but far less often.


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