Does anyone feel left behind?
I can really relate to this.
My other diagnosis is Schizophrenia, and that you definitely do not tell people who don't know you well enough.
I got diagnosed with ASD in May, and there has been nothing done to help with supports.
Getting to 33 and then being diagnosed is a hard pill to swallow, as all the pain of the journey I have taken to this point could have been averted.
Thankfully I accept it now, but really the diagnosis of Autism was more a confirmation of a suspicion of my psychologist who I saw originally for the schizophrenia.
For sure, I feel really left behind. I don't think I will ever make any friends again. And I worry I am a burden on my parents sometimes.
My other diagnosis is Schizophrenia, and that you definitely do not tell people who don't know you well enough.
I got diagnosed with ASD in May, and there has been nothing done to help with supports.
Getting to 33 and then being diagnosed is a hard pill to swallow, as all the pain of the journey I have taken to this point could have been averted.
Thankfully I accept it now, but really the diagnosis of Autism was more a confirmation of a suspicion of my psychologist who I saw originally for the schizophrenia.
For sure, I feel really left behind. I don't think I will ever make any friends again. And I worry I am a burden on my parents sometimes.
Congradulations , not all Aspies make to that age ., Am living proof of this
according to number of good doctors . Hope your doc take the diagnosis of autism into Consideration with his diagnosis of Schizophrenia .
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when i was a kid the school shrink wrappers also dx'ed me [depending on the shrink] as schizoid or schizotypal. didn't get the AS dx until my early 40s. my reaction to the latter was "life goes on until god calls me home." i am partial to the "holland" analogy, it is soothing and consoling to me.
when i was a kid the school shrink wrappers also dx'ed me [depending on the shrink] as schizoid or schizotypal. didn't get the AS dx until my early 40s. my reaction to the latter was "life goes on until god calls me home." i am partial to the "holland" analogy, it is soothing and consoling to me.
when we were learning these terms and people were giving presentations, i got a horrible feeling (when the kids who had to present schizoid were doing so) that this all described me, from an outsider's POV, exactly.
had no idea about Aspergers or that i could even be considered to be on it..
worst fear is non-verbal child developing schizophrenia too in addition to the already manifested ASD...
how on earth do people in that situation have any relief/hope/outlet/peace?? i mean even a tiny bit?
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thank you
ADDENDUM: I've learned a long time ago to avoid making comparisons; that is comparisons are subjective - hence getting stuck in "that viscous cycle of comparisons" might just be the worst thing!
In short, comparing apples and oranges yields nothing more than lemons and the pits!!
The short answer is, yeah, always. I'm not really in touch with any of my old friends anymore except in the superficial Facebook way, but they are all waaaaay more successful than I am. I've felt this way since I finished graduate school. All my friends were getting these great jobs and finding great relationships and getting married and buying houses and I was living at home with my parents again, struggling to find a full time job and alone. I hit all the milestone eventually except for kids (neither my husband and I wanted them), but I still feel behind. It seems like everyone I used to know is rich and successful, traveling all over the world and living in fantastic houses and having amazing social lives. I live in a modest middle class ranch style house and am a happily married legal secretary. I'm not exactly setting the world on fire with my accomplishments. Pre diagnosis I would really feel down about it, like a complete loser. Post diagnosis, I feel better my lack of success. I don't feel so defective anymore; it's more a feeling of what might have been if I hadn't been born this way. It helps to remind myself that I can't compare myself to NTs because that's completely unfair to me. I live with a lot of limitations that they don't. They handle things with ease that I really, really struggle with. I have to remind myself I've done pretty well all things considered.
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Success is as success does . It was a keeping up with the jones,s world , but that is not a true reality .
Quite honestly and comparatively , it sounds as if you have done quite well . Not everyone is a Justin Bieber or. Madonna, “ example” the person with one eye rules , in the kingdom of the blind people .
And if you have Autism going for you , it might be easy to see that , you may possess traits unique to you ,that you may not have realized yet, Cause being in the rat race , can cause shortsightedness. In the best of people.
Offered as a thought.
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Success is as success does . It was a keeping up with the jones,s world , but that is not a true reality .
Quite honestly and comparatively , it sounds as if you have done quite well . Not everyone is a Justin Bieber or. Madonna, “ example” the person with one eye rules , in the kingdom of the blind people .
And if you have Autism going for you , it might be easy to see that , you may possess traits unique to you ,that you may not have realized yet, Cause being in the rat race , can cause shortsightedness. In the best of people.
Offered as a thought.
Well put -- Being caught in the "rat-race" can yield short-sightedness - even in the best of people!
when i was a kid the school shrink wrappers also dx'ed me [depending on the shrink] as schizoid or schizotypal. didn't get the AS dx until my early 40s. my reaction to the latter was "life goes on until god calls me home." i am partial to the "holland" analogy, it is soothing and consoling to me.
Considers stuffing corks. Into each of Auntblabby s. Ears so he may get farther down the road before he hears gawd calling , by the grace of god.
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when i was a kid the school shrink wrappers also dx'ed me [depending on the shrink] as schizoid or schizotypal. didn't get the AS dx until my early 40s. my reaction to the latter was "life goes on until god calls me home." i am partial to the "holland" analogy, it is soothing and consoling to me.
Considers stuffing corks. Into each of Auntblabby s. Ears so he may get farther down the road before he hears gawd calling , by the grace of god.
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