Worst thing about autism?

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The huge gap between the little I have accomplished and what I feel I could do if I could somehow get organized...

It takes just a little something to make me happy, but I need that little something so very, very much.

In my opinion, the difficulty connecting with other people and building lasting friendships is the worst thing about being Autistic.

(Oh, would you look at that. I'm a Veteran now!)

Probably lack of concentration while working on something that doesn't always interest you.

Hmm, where to start... *Clears throat*...

1. The double standards (NTs aren't expected to understand how we feel but if we don't understand how NTs feel we're the ones that lack empathy)
2. The sensory issues
3. The stigma ("autistics are more likely to kill")
4. The social deficits (humans are social creatures yet we have some deficits with that essential survival skill) and lacking understanding of stuff that humans are supposed to find simple
5. The co-morbids (depression, anxiety, OCD, etc)
6. The way it seems "contagious" (if an autistic grows up among NT siblings, chances are the NT siblings get affected by the autism too and seem more prone to depression or anxiety)
7. The way autism isn't just a social deficit disorder, it comes with a long list of other symptoms too, just to make life even harder for us
8. The way it's a "mystery" (autism is an extremely complex brain dysfunction and it's still not completely known as to how or why people get autism)
9. The way autism is the only disorder/disability in the world that gets separated from the rest of the population (every person in the world is a "normal" human being unless you have an ASD, then you're totally abnormal, aka non-NT)
10. Obsessions that can get out of hand and get you into trouble (like stalking a person if you're the type that gets obsessed with people)
11. Meltdowns - THE WORST SYMPTOM OF ALL!! !
12. The social isolation and lack of friends
13. Statistics that I'm not sure are true or not but still scare me ("autistics are more likely to become homeless", "autistics are more likely to shoot a class of children", "autistics are more likely to die younger", "autistics are more likely to get dementia or cancer", etc etc)... just gives me more reason to hate autism
14. Being undateable or unemployable (not that those apply to me but they do for a lot of autistic people)
15. Giving off different body language to what you intend to and so often being misinterpreted or ridiculed
16. Immaturity
17. The way everything is a symptom of ASD even if it's not
18. The way it seems to be a cluster of mental illness and retardation - even though it generally isn't either of those
19. The odd/rigid thinking (having certain words that I find offensive or triggering but aren't actually supposed to be offensive or triggering to most people), also other thinking styles that nobody (including other autistics) seems to understand when I try to explain
20. Empathy issues - as in having TOO MUCH empathy
21. The embarrassing things it made me do in my life that I can never erase from my memory
22. Every autism case being so different to one another that soon they might as well lump everybody on the spectrum and be done with it, instead of it just being a simple diagnosis where you either have it or you don't, like down's syndrome (yes I know the physical features give that away but now they're saying that autistic people have physical features too so why's it still being unrecognised or misdiagnosed???)
23. How worryingly misunderstood autism is and how society shuns us for being autistic but in the eyes of the law we are capable citizens (some autistics can't get a job because of being autistic but don't qualify for SSI because we're too capable)

I could go on and on. Autism SUCKS and I don't understand how some people can be so proud of having it.

Socializing. It's very tough for me to have a filter and I end up being very frank with people. People don't like that. People go after me sometimes. My own mum went after me when I was a teenager. It got to the point that I wouldn't talk much when she was around in fear of my saying the wrong thing, unless there was something I really wanted to say.

For me it's sensory issues and alexithymia. Both of these things compound a lot of the other problems I have. :/

The stereotypes, the stigma, and people being judgmental and sometimes treating you differently than they would treat a neurotypical person.

Also, feeling inadequate and like I'll always be different and never fit in or be successful.

Knowing that nothing in the world can help you. All you can do is manage your condition... for the rest of your life.

Not being able to go ballistic (in a good way) when the hyperempathy kicks in due to crowd ecstasy (whether you're present or hear a recording) because 90% of the time it's at a time where going ballistic isn't socially acceptable

I guess the simplest description of what the worst thing about Autism was for me was going through life as a "designated target" for meanness and difficulty and having no idea why.

I was diagnosed at age 64 and that's when I found out why I was a "designated target", but I am on the inside looking out so I still am unclear as to how I was so clearly and conspicuously marked as being designated. What did all of those NTs see??? How did they know??? (That, by the way, is a rhetorical question. Please don't try to tell me. I am decades past caring.)

Caveat: Like OP Davideus85, I am in the U.S. "My" autism is being Level 1 on the DSM-5 Autism Spectrum. Outside the DSM-5 I would be said to have Asperger's Syndrome. Other folk on WP may have "classic" Autism and their experience is likely very, very different from mine.

Being stereotyped and being told who I can and can't interact with.

My childhood of horrific meltdowns... Almost everyday at school, I was punished a lot, having to stand in the corner, I even got detention because I had a severe meltdown and lashed out at people... They thought I was doing it on purpose. And the fact as an adult when I get stressed I still get meltdowns that cause me to hit myself, etc... Plus I get sudden suicidal ideation, because I'm so ashamed by how I act, ending up in the psych ward many times. Doesn't help I have severe bipolar too...

I hate my meltdowns... I'd be fine if I didn't emotionally overreact so much....

having a hard time socializing, mental health issues, etc.