Do any of you feel like you don't fit in groups?

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Nothing wrong with what you are doing at all, Jakki.

You are seeking connections with people----which is excellent.

I'm not a believer in religion----but I find that religion frequently makes people better, and helps people be better friends.

Thanks kraftie ......... your input in most. Appreciated ,, And A Happy St. Patrick’s day to you .

where ever you go ,there you are.

What a true and wonderful quote. God is in all and through all. So it would make sense that where ever we go God is there; because we are God manifest as body.

Thanks. Happy St Patrick's Day to you, too.

I feel like I don’t fit in most groups at school, even if I get along with them fine. Let’s face it: autism is essentially kryptonite to being popular in school, so I’m obviously not gonna be in any of those groups. Even the groups of less popular kids that are connected to the social mainstream are too neurotypical for me and presumably other Aspies/autists at my school. I’ve been in a couple clubs in high school, one the entirely of 9th and 10th grade, and though I got along well with the people in there, I didn’t really feel like I was part of a “group”.
I don’t really mind not being part of a group, I’m an introvert anyways who seems to get by fine without much socialization. I like to think of myself as a solitary animal, one who travels one rather than in a herd, pack, flock, or other social group. It is very rare for me to gather with more than two friends at a time.

Used to be , I could not communicate well with more than one person at a time ..and then would get pretty anxious
And generally would lose one or both friends . So it did not make sense for me to communicate with more than one person at a time, and my focus was not overly stressed . Seemed like my nervous system could not keep up.
But that was much early on in life .

Well my little group cannot see me this weekend,,nor could not see me over Christmas.
So feeling alittle more outcast about now. Wish it were different .

I used to believe that not being liked is what gave me low self-esteem, until I realized that my own expressions of low self-esteem (i.e., complaining, frowning, slouching, et cetera) were what made people not like me.

When I stopped acting like a loser, people stopped treating me like a loser.

Then I got better.

See this is a touchy situation overall because I feel like I have an easier time fitting into groups when I mask. Like if I display this filtered version of myself then it's all totally fine and there are aspects of me that succeed in group situations, but the moment I unmask and display the real me it all becomes so difficult for me to really stay around or feel like truly a part of everything. It's messed up to me because I don't...really ask for much in return (even when it's not met long as I'm filled in and it only depends on how close I am with the person anyway, ...theres a lot of layers to this) and it's not even an issue that's necessarily had with me until it's happening, to which this doesn't even really happen often save for like one friend group I more or less at this point WAS in

I don't fit into any groups at all. Even in school in the groups of autistic people I met I was kind of an outlier, and I got kicked out of a group once because this NT chick found me the most annoying. I can have at most 1-2 friends without people getting annoyed with me or bored of me and figuring out they like everyone else in the group more than me.

I don't fit anywhere, tbh.

I spent almost a year in a group, and was getting good feedback, but yesterday I decided I was just too uncomfortable there.