Do/have you use(d) AS as an excuse for stuff?

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I have only had Asperger's Syndrome Disorder for almost a year now.

what I mean by that is I didn't know I had it before last October, so I never pointed to it to explain my behaviour, I just took it on as MY OWN FAILURE to adapt and thrive.

Since I now know, I one time said to someone "well, I suppose not being able to remember or recognize people's faces is a part of my neurological disorder" and was told I was 'making excuses because everyone can remember faces. . ."


So I don't say anything anymore. Personally I don't know how you guys that KNOW you were/are AS even want to wake up in the morning. I have been in a depressive funk where I am just screaming when reviewing my life and seeing it as the poor socially and emotionally ret*d person I am and am so embarrassed by my inability to actually understand what was happening at the time. . .

(shudder)
I am going to take another nap after I have a good cry.

ooh, the cry was wonderful...! ! and the nap was refreshing! now. . what were we all so emotional about?

ofcourse.

nope. never have, probably never will

I have been using it as a reason to forgive myself for a lot of things, to tell myself that I don't have all these awful negative personality traits, that some things I've done I couldn't have helped doing.

I am determined that now I know I have AS I will still push myself outside my comfort zone and do things that I'm not supposed to be able to do - socialise, cope with stressful situations.

I sometimes use it for an excuse as to why I haven't at this point been able to do certain things, although that might count as an explanation. It makes me feel better. I don't use it as an excuse not to do something in the future (one exception: I used it as an excuse to get a single room for this year)

Excuse? Excuse for what? Being an Aspie is great. For me at least the negative aspects are mainly restricted me having no friends, and I don't really care about that, so there's no need for an excuse. Is it an excuse if I attribute some of my positive characteristics, such as my ability to focus intensely and my good memory, to Asperger's? Most people don't know that I'm an Aspie, and wouldn't pick up on it. Everyone just thinks I'm nerdy and socially inept. Both of which are true. Though I think blaming problems on Asperger's may tend to perpetuate the impression that autism is a disability, not a difference. However, I, along with I believe many others here, view it the other way around. There are both positive and negative aspects to being an Aspie, but I guess we (and the medical profession) tend to emphasize the negative more than the positive.

Well, I'd like to talk to people when they greet me, I'm a friendly sort of person in reality; said autism is a valid justification for why I cannot do it, hence, it's an excuse to remove blame from my personality (I'd like to, but I'm inhibited by something that isn't "me").

I'm sorry that I cannot talk to people, I know that talking to others can induce happiness in them; I cannot, and then I induce a negative reaction in them for not bein' able to explain myself and why I cannot talk.