How do you make friends when people think you’re weird

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To add to the many sensible suggestions already made ...

I find it helps (and am currently working on this!) to reduce one's barriers and make oneself vulnerable. People tend to get on better when they perceive something to connect to / something that is relatable. As well as of course contexts and topics that are in common. & that last point doesn't mean having to 'be interested in whatever they are interested in' though it certainly helps to listen and understand first.

Plus of course see if you have access to any form of counseling that could help you understand your goals and ways in which you can achieve them.

My experience suggests being a vulnerable, autistic boy isn't a good experience.

Coming to the realization that weirdness is subjective will help you a lot. Sure, you're weird. I'm weird. A lot of other folks are weird. What counts is what you bring to the table.

I feel like a lot of other autistic people forget that a relationship is a two way street. You have to bring something to the table if you're expecting the people you're interacting with to give you undivided attention. No one really likes hanging out with someone who doesn't give the space to just be, you know?

And one more thing: what you need to internalize is that you have inherent intrinsic value, no matter what. It's okay to assume the best about people coming up to approach you, take social falters with grace, and stop beating yourself up for awkward encounters and scenarios. Be yourself, but also have the empathy to let others be themselves around you.

Lastly: you're not going to get along with everyone. That's just a fact. And that's perfectly okay.

I would suggest accepting the approaching person as genuine. I've never initiated a friendship. Every friend I've ever had approached me for friendship first. Had I assumed bad intentions, I would have been friendless my entire life. I've had some really good friends and I would hate to think about how my life would have been if I hadn't been open to their initial approach. Just something you may want to consider going forward.