Do You Compare Your Achievements To NTs?

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Do you compare how well you have achieved in life to former schoolmates who were NTs? Do you feel dissapointed or resentful if your achievements are not at the norm like everyone else?

YES! I expected to find my life to be hard but not damn near impossible. How many scripts to I have to write and memorize in order to get a chance to do a job that doesn't take that many brain cells to begin with.

I told my mom the other day that you should just have to take an IQ test for any job you want. That way if your smart enough to do the job it is yours and none of this fuss about crap that doesn't matter like if I look normal and know how to smile and stare at my interviewer apporiately. I wrote the book on bad first impressions and want to growl everytime I hear people claim that first impressions are the most accurate reading of an indivuadual. They are so wrong. First impressions are for the apes. The only thing a first impression will tell you is if the person is a conformist or not.

That is what drives my jealousy. I am fish out of water. Normal people just don't get it and hence they think they are better than me because they know all the rules and what matters to them doesn't matter to me and so forth.

What really broke my self-esteem as a child was that I wasn't graded on my academic performance I was graded on my social skills or lack there of. I didn't particapte in anything in grad school and was actually shocked when high school teachers actually thought I wasn't an idiot. You wear a label long enough and it becomes a part of you.

So yes I admit I have complex about my intelligence as a human being and at times I feel that my scores have to be better than the NTS (unless genius level) I have encountered because I already know i am "socially ret*d".

I agree.

Well, I guess that, just because I am here, you know that I haven't been to reunions,etc... So I can't say where my "peers" are. Based on society as a whole, etc.... I don't think their prospects look too good.

I guess I am luckier than you guys in this respect, although it is easier to get a job as a consultant because they can determine how well you have done, get rid of you if they don't like you, and you may be sold as a package.

So I have only had 4 "JOBS"

boxboy(When I was a kid) <<<Minimum wage, and they just wanted work
PC Board inspector/finisher(When I was in highshool)<<<A bit over minimum wage, and non social.
computer industry(2 times)(After highschool)<<<Quite a bit over minimum wage, but technical.

I HATE my "peers" with the "better social skills" NOT because of jealousy or because they make more than I do. I HATE the managers that seem to only slow things down, take credit for my work, and get paid twice what I do. I HATE the salespeople that try to gyp people, etc.....

As for first impressions, I'm sure people underestimate me, etc... I have actually had some people not hire me, and I feel sorry for THEM! They will go off, have MORE stress, and spend more money, and possibly never get the work done!

BTW I give people a kind of IQ test for my company!(It is really SIMPLE! It tests only the most basic of logic and communication, and memory. Yet, surprisingly, FEW get even 70% on it) I can happily say that I don't go by first appearances. Heck, after hearing about some of you, I will even reserve judgement in person.

As for interviews I have had, I know some of what might be asked, and plan ahead, but I don't write it down, etc.... STILL, on my last contract job, I LOST the position as the "team lead". I am the HEAD guy! The leading TECHNICAL guy! I am now the ONLY one working on this project! They laugh at me because I do things before they have ever been assigned! They want me to wait. Just yesterday, someone asked me to fix a problem. I said ****I**** found it monday! ****I**** brought it up tuesday! ****I**** fixed it tuesday! *****I***** had it moved on wednesday! And THEY log the bug on wednesday, after it is fixed, etc....! INCREDIBLE! They never even saw the data. IMAGINE! Perhaps 6 people paid to take a letter, forge THEIR name on it, and "return to sender".

Yet I can't even get the mere title because I have no "people skills". Instead, they have 4-6 people ask me the SAME questions and asking for a time estimate(Which often means that the later people are asking about a problem that exists only because the earlier people distracted me from finishing!), because they are going to the SAME meeting, and want to report on the SAME THING!

So I really have to wonder what good people skills are at work? WHY? So you can tell some jerk to get lost? So the jerks can keep their jobs even though they are really WASTING money? WHO KNOWS.

NOPE! I missed social skills mainly for friends, and getting a nice wife. Otherwise, GOOD RIDDANCE!

No i don't compare my achievements wid NTs i might have not done as well as dem but at da end of da day i have succeeded in life such as memorsing road maps n train timetables n NTs now do take me serious as dey wish dey had dat ability.

To answer the original poster's question, yes I do measure myself among NTs, because NTs are the only people I know outside of this place, with one exception, my dad. I think, "Well, here's where they are, here's where I should be." Lately I've been catching myself do that and I kind of grab a hold of myself and kind of say to myself "You're not them!" Then I relax a little.

I am fairly intelligent and have a job I perform well, but I am probably not as successful in a traditional sense as NTs of equal intelligence. My personality is not very fiery or outgoing and that could be holding back my advancement. I will stick with it, though.

When I do this, it only makes me panic and stops me from functioning well.

I'm trying to stop that altogether... this won't be easy and sometimes I'll feel tempted to compare myself to NT's again and again...
I'm on a good run... and I know atm that I feel I'm doing better than quite a few able Neurotypes out there... I know I may have knowledge that I feel I may be currently doing a bit better, but I will never go out solely to compare myself atm...

The 'bold, strong underdog' approach is helping me... I feel strong and courageous.

I think I'm too competitive sometimes. My school counselor told me I'm already ahead of the education standards (although I think that's just too low in this country!), but whenever I hear other students receive compliments from teachers or do even slightly better than me I withdraw into a deeply depressed and dysfunctional state. /: