History of being a survivor of violence

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Hey everyone! just wanted to share a quick story and see if its happened to anyone else? I know issues with unemployment with people on the spectrum are really high. How do you guys "stay out of trouble" sort of speak? And also find good people of upheld moral character. I don't live in the best part of Pennsylvania, even though I'm trying day by day to be grateful. So basically what happened was my friends brought over another friend of they'res which I didn't care for. He's known for stealing people's belongings and picking fights with people. They still insisted on bringing him to the lake with us. So I flipped out and left. That's when they started calling me one time after another, tracking me down, and when they finally found me, he tried talking to me. Maybe my expectations were too tough on them to understand my autism entirely, but I was going through a lot of s**t that day. However I still believe there's no excuse for what he did. Later on when I turned around waiting for my dad which was a huge mistake on my end. He threatened me. Then everything went south from there. All I can say was I was bleeding and he had horrible cat looking scratch marks. Any reply would be greatly appreciated!

-Angel

Speak softly and carry a cattleprod.
Just the sound of it will give you some breathing space.

Perhaps being beaten as a child helps one make better potential threat assessments such that those likely to cause harm can be avoided. This also includes avoiding friends whose judgement is so undiscriminating as to welcome those who pose threats.

Violence can be shocking especially for one who may not have fully appreciated the evil in the world. However, it does make one appreciate those with more peaceful spirits.

People who were abused in childhood are more likely to experience violence as adults.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/P ... lt%20abuse.

https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulation ... 2017-09-27

https://www.abs.gov.au/articles/childho ... -adulthood

Obviously, your mileage will vary. Also, correlation doesn’t necessarily equal causation. Socioeconomic factors likely play some role, but I do think that when abuse is normalized it could sometimes impair one’s ability to recognize warning signs or see concerning behavior for what it is. Sometimes abuse teaches one not to trust themselves, perhaps especially if you were beaten for doing just that. Here’s an example of what I mean:

A young child with autism may get overstimulated in a department store and their instinct tells them to hide in a clothes rack where it’s dark and quiet to calm down. If it leads to a beating, it could contribute towards teaching them that their instincts or even needs are wrong or not to be trusted, especially if similar scenarios are repeated over and over again throughout childhood.

It was good of you to leave. They should have left you alone after that. I am sorry you went through this. But you are correct, he should not be stealing from people and picking fights.