Should I be making aspie female friends?

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I do get along with males and tomboys but anytime a guy and I become friends, it later becomes a sexual proposition. I feel very akward and not comfortable around girly girls. I don't find salons to be relaxing and walking in malls for hours bothers me.
Anyone else have problems with the opposite sex like you want to be friends but it just doesn't happen that way?

I'm trying really hard to get out of my shell but I feel even more in my shell when around certain kinds of people depending on reactions.

See my post "I hate women".

My advice is to look for other girls who also don't get along with girls. They make the /best/ friends.

MAN I wish I had your problem there. Still, part of my problem is I don't even try. I think that is related to a commonly stated symptom of as "Apparent lack of interest in sex". Again, key word is APPARENT! AND, if I did ask, and you said no, I would be fine with that and maybe never mention it again.

And more and more women may ask the same things!

GEE, Just when I see a relatively attractive(not meant in a sexual way) demographic, along comes someone like you to obliterate it. Oh well, it isn't like I am going to meet many of you.

My experience is that they are kinda hard to find...and once found...um...difficult to maintain.

I am satisfied with brief superficial friendships with girls from travelling bands who play at my place and then leave never to be seen again. They are generally pretty interesting and open-minded non-conformist types.

Some I bond better with than others...

Guess that's not me- can't get too much girlier than what I am

How girly are you?

Well, I have no friends in real life, but I prefer male friends. And they never develop crushes on me, so yay.

Your a meanie

Most aspie chicks are cool though :].

"Should I be making aspie female friends? "

I know I should. My lovelife in the regular places (NT orientated) is a disaster

Sometimes. I once met someone who wanted to be in love with me, but I had to turn him down because I could not feel love for him. It probably hurt him lots, but didn't bother me much, and now I realize that if you want to be friends with someone--just friends--you should make that clear from the start. Missing social cues obviously makes that hard, but if they demand your love and nothing else, perhaps they aren't worth your time anyways.

If I asked someone for eex, it would be a scary thing and not casual so if they said no, I'd be so hurt, I'd have a hard time getting over it. So when I was single, if a guy friend wanted to be romantic on some level, I felt so nervous and overly empatheitc about rejecting him that I'd not even give myself a chance to figure out if I would, eventually feel the same toward the guy. I'd just feel really guilty for not cooperating and avoid the guy after that, disappointed that I lost a friend.

When I ask other women how they deal with refusing sex, they take it in stride, It's seems like they slap the guy on the nose and say "bad dog!" and then they go back to whatever they were doing before.

I did that recently. Told someone from the start what I wanted which was friendship only. I did that because like you say social cues and I thought it would be helpful, well it wasn't. Apparently SOME guys think even if you are straight up from the start, it doesn't matter. All women do that. They are just lying! Most people seem to have two seperate filing cabinets in their brains. One for typical female response and one for male. You try to tell them you aren't apart of that and it doesn't matter. You are automatically placed in the typical gender response filing cabinet.




MarieElana

What makes you a girly girl? What are your hobbies and interests in general?

I shall test your advice....maybe. If I do, I'll send you a report!

Hang out where girly girls are afraid to tread.

Advanced math classes, or automotive classes.

Like Poopy said, off-beat coffee houses, or places that stage odd plays.
Geology classes, that sort of thing...