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27 Oct 2007, 5:45 pm

"I haven't found anyone I like yet."
(if they continue)
"(bleep) off!"



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27 Oct 2007, 5:47 pm

I have a co-worker who always tries to egg me on about the fact that I am (for the moment) girlfriend-less. He'll try to agitate me by saying, as he's cuddling with his girlfriend, "Don't you wish YOU could do this?". His girlfriend always says to him, "Oh, you're MEAN!", but continues to be with him. My psychologist just told me to laugh it off and shake my head as if to say, "Ooookay".

I have a date on Friday with a young lady I have met on an off for about 2 years or so, so please wish me luck. She's a sweetheart! I can't wait for my co-worker to egg me on again, so I can laugh at him and say, "Give us a few weeks, and we'll make you two look like a married couple on your way to divorce court!".


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27 Oct 2007, 5:52 pm

AnnePande wrote:
sarahstilettos wrote:
I've also just started to think about my psychologist asking me why I didn't have a boyfriend, as though that was totally weird when I was only fifteen!! !


8O 8O

I think (s)he's the one to be weird here!
(I'm 29, by the way... 8) )


It was a she, and yes I think she was a bit nuts. Most people don't really have relationships until they've left school, do they? Even if they're NT as NT can be. And I thought the received wisdom was that you should wait until you find someone you're suited to, rather than jumping into bed with someone out of peer pressure... right? Holding out doesn't make you a freak, its the sensible thing to do.



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27 Oct 2007, 5:52 pm

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It sucks when people tell you to find a girlfriend, but it sucks even more when they chuckle after they tell you to find a girlfriend - ie: they don't really care if you have or don't have a girlfriend; they just want to remind you how pathetic you are and have a laugh at your expense.

I tell them to find me a girlfriend. What do you tell them?


Ermmmmmm....Ehhhhh Conformists? Eh?



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27 Oct 2007, 5:52 pm

nebgreen wrote:
I have a co-worker who always tries to egg me on about the fact that I am (for the moment) girlfriend-less. He'll try to agitate me by saying, as he's cuddling with his girlfriend, "Don't you wish YOU could do this?".


I'd have said: "Not with that!"

Then if he didn't get physically aggressive with me, he'd be labeled a p**** in the mind of his girlfriend.

If he did try to defend her honor physically, then I'd hand him his ass, throw him to the floor, put my foot on his head, and say: "Don't you wish YOU could've done this?" :wink:



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27 Oct 2007, 5:56 pm

Iam forever being asked this or why Iam not married, I just tell them the truth, "Woman dont find me attractive".



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27 Oct 2007, 5:59 pm

A woman I knew once was perplexed that I was still in love with her. She apparently figured I could be meeting other women if only I wanted to. I think this is a general deficit among women: assuming dating and romantic relationships are as easy for males as they are for females. A reasonably attractive woman would have little trouble finding a willing date or mate if she so chose. Women, however, are generally much pickier about mate selection so that even a fairly attractive male may have great difficulty getting a date (even if he does go out of his way to meet women). A perfect example of this phenomenon is me. I would say I am a fairly attractive man: I am smart, have a diversity of (admittedly esoteric) interests, exercise, have a good (if unusual) sense of humor, and am much more loyal and kind than most people; yet at the age of 22, I have never been on a date, kissed a girl, or any of that despite having a high desire to and having talked to myriad women.



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27 Oct 2007, 6:07 pm

Well I don't think it's easy for a guy to get a date...and believe me, I have met some utterly gorgeous guys (NT too) who don't seem too sure of themselves when it comes to "pulling"!

I am so glad i wasn't born male, if I had been I know I would still be a virgin...

BUT...the flip side is that it's pretty hard for a woman to attract a man that she actually wants...and though, to be honest, it's probably easy to get almost any guy into bed it can be almost impossible to get a second date...

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27 Oct 2007, 6:15 pm

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A perfect example of this phenomenon is me. I would say I am a fairly attractive man: I am smart, have a diversity of (admittedly esoteric) interests, etc etc


hi Image

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nebgreen wrote:
I have a co-worker who always tries to egg me on about the fact that I am (for the moment) girlfriend-less. He'll try to agitate me by saying, as he's cuddling with his girlfriend, "Don't you wish YOU could do this?". His girlfriend always says to him, "Oh, you're MEAN!", but continues to be with him. My psychologist just told me to laugh it off and shake my head as if to say, "Ooookay".

I have a date on Friday with a young lady I have met on an off for about 2 years or so, so please wish me luck. She's a sweetheart! I can't wait for my co-worker to egg me on again, so I can laugh at him and say, "Give us a few weeks, and we'll make you two look like a married couple on your way to divorce court!".


don't do that (the divorce court joke), at least in front of the girlfriend. It'll be seen as (way too) rude.

An acceptable joke you can always say when that co-worker and her girl are cuddling and he says
"Don't you wish YOU could do this?"
is to tell him "Ok, don't be shy and hug me!" or something similar :)


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27 Oct 2007, 6:17 pm

I simply tell them that I can't find a person that I can bond with.



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27 Oct 2007, 6:19 pm

Helsinger wrote:
nebgreen wrote:
I have a co-worker who always tries to egg me on about the fact that I am (for the moment) girlfriend-less. He'll try to agitate me by saying, as he's cuddling with his girlfriend, "Don't you wish YOU could do this?".


I'd have said: "Not with that!"

Then if he didn't get physically aggressive with me, he'd be labeled a p**** in the mind of his girlfriend.

If he did try to defend her honor physically, then I'd hand him his ass, throw him to the floor, put my foot on his head, and say: "Don't you wish YOU could've done this?" :wink:


brilliantly put.



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27 Oct 2007, 6:19 pm

computerlove wrote:
NeantHumain wrote:
A perfect example of this phenomenon is me. I would say I am a fairly attractive man: I am smart, have a diversity of (admittedly esoteric) interests, etc etc


hi Image

hehe



nebgreen wrote:
I have a co-worker who always tries to egg me on about the fact that I am (for the moment) girlfriend-less. He'll try to agitate me by saying, as he's cuddling with his girlfriend, "Don't you wish YOU could do this?". His girlfriend always says to him, "Oh, you're MEAN!", but continues to be with him. My psychologist just told me to laugh it off and shake my head as if to say, "Ooookay".

I have a date on Friday with a young lady I have met on an off for about 2 years or so, so please wish me luck. She's a sweetheart! I can't wait for my co-worker to egg me on again, so I can laugh at him and say, "Give us a few weeks, and we'll make you two look like a married couple on your way to divorce court!".


don't do that (the divorce court joke), at least in front of the girlfriend. It'll be seen as (way too) rude.

An acceptable joke you can always say when that co-worker and her girl are cuddling and he says
"Don't you wish YOU could do this?"
is to tell him "Ok, don't be shy and hug me!" or something similar :)


This is a good idea... I would say, 'But I CAN!' and then wrap my arms around both of them and squeeeeeze!



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27 Oct 2007, 6:27 pm

whenever i talk to my grandmother she always asks either about whether i have made friends or found a gf. She's extreme NT, i have better chances of winning the jackpot ten times in a row than of successfully explaining to her. I hate talking to her for that reason. She's not vicious or anything, the concept that i could want a gf but not be able to find one is beyond her comprehension, likewise with friends. i can't even change the topic because i become paralysed with anger.



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27 Oct 2007, 6:27 pm

I'd tell them something in the line of: "I don't want to spend time looking. One hour with an escort, and I'm good for two weeks." If they respond with a negative comment about me paying for sex, I give them a comeback: "With my [ugly] looks, what else do you expect?" One time, I actually said that, and they had a stumped "well, can't argue with that" look on their faces.



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29 Oct 2007, 2:05 am

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I used to have one, but I lost her in a poker game



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29 Oct 2007, 2:27 am

Look deeply into the eyes of the person who said it and say in a low seductive tone... "I'm just waiting for the right moment to ask... someone."


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