Do you have any support system?

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Basically someone you feel understands you and your behavior faults and atleast some of your AS traits and the fact that you have AS etc. Someone you can talk to about a problem (not everything mind you) but you get the idea. For me it's my older sister she found the AS diagnosis and at first I was apprehensive but over time finding WP and reading info. she found it sounds alot like me more than Bipolar 2 EVER DID!! ! LOL!

Nope. Although I guess I have a cataclysmic support system. As in if something dire happens (be it of my own doing or not), there are people who would take care of me.

Although the closest I got to an everyday support system I guess would be my sister. I don't confide in her but if I felt the need to I'm pretty sure she would be there.

Then again I mostly don't mind not having a support system. I do fine talking with myself ( in an introspective imaginary way, not in a voices in my head way). In fact that is how I spend a majority of my time. I just wish it didn't bother other people so much.

I have my partner and a very good therapist who actually has a brother who is AS, so she really gets it.

I thought I had another friend, but that relationship is up in the air and with the Dx things seem very tenuous... she seems to be withdrawing and it worries me sick.

I'd like to have one more IRL friend, in case something ever happened to my partner... I'm not sure I could afford to talk to my therapist that much!

But the last couple of years have been pretty traumatic re: other people blowing up on me, so I'm kinda taking a breather on the humans for a while... not expecting/wanting/risking anything beyond standard social courtesy.

Not really, it's just the three of us...me, myself, and I.

Basically someone you feel understands you and your behavior faults and atleast some of your AS traits and the fact that you have AS etc. Someone you can talk to about a problem (not everything mind you) but you get the idea. For me it's my older sister she found the AS diagnosis and at first I was apprehensive but over time finding WP and reading info. she found it sounds alot like me more than Bipolar 2 EVER DID!! ! LOL!

I have a few family members who are pretty tolerant about my behavioral oddness, but there's no one I tell anything personal to.

I'm not saying it's a good thing, but I'm not sure I'd know what I'd do with a support-type person if I had one. It's always just been me dealing with emotional stuff on my own. Admitedly, I think that has messed me up at least a little bit when it comes to trusting people.

But (like others have said), the people in my imaginary conversations are very understanding.

I do now.. Kris is amazing at dealing with it.
He's able to not take things personally in this really incredible way, like he's not bothered if I say something the wrong way, and if I'm freaking out about something, he can understand and be calm rather than making it worse. It's the first time I've ever had somebody who would actually do something beneficial (which is usually give me space..) if I'm having a meltdown, rather than screaming at me and making it worse. And he can understand that if the freaking alarm is going off and I'm punching in the right code and it just isn't working, and it's so loud it's actually painful, that I'm not going to be completely in control of myself! ..so that I can eventually calm down. My freak-outs don't last nearly as long when I don't then get yelled at.. (The battery on the control panel was almost dead. Enough that hitting "arm" would arm it, but it couldn't accept the code when I got back! ..and he didn't tell me to use it until just before I was taking the dog for a walk. I didn't actually know how to use it anyway.. which bothered me too. Yea, I was not a happy camper. But it was better than everyone in my past, who would have yelled at me for freaking out over it.)

No support system.
Unless you count my 2 cats.
Who are the best support system ever.

For those deep and personal emotional, mental, physical, and heart and soul things, I have my wife, who is "Bubbybird" on here.
Have my Psychologist.
To a lesser degree have my parents.
(which raises the question of WHY am I forty-six years old and STILL needing help from my parents? )
And, yes, el gato contributes.

Do hobbies count as support?

I have a small but tolerant and understanding network of friends and I have my parents.

I've got a few friends who appreciate my "eccentricities", one of whom suggested I might have AS in the first place.

For the typical "my life sucks" problems, yes sure. I talk to my friends.

For the deeper aspie problems? I've never really had anyone before, because no one could possibly understand. I think I have someone now.

I have one friend. She's been very supportive and has always been there for me. Everything she's said and done tells me she accepts me for who I am. I'm very lucky to have her in my life.

The only negatives are that she lives a few hundred miles away and we have different preferences for staying in touch: She prefers the phone, but I prefer e-mail. Oh, well. Nothing's perfect, I guess.