Emotionally Sensitive

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I don't know if it's an AS thing or not but I'm so emotionally sensitive. I hate it. I try to tell myself to buck up but it really doesn't work that well. I may be able to save it until I get home but I eventually I get into this haze.
Usually I feel like I was treated unfairly or misunderstood. Yes, I have tried years of therapy and it doesn't help that much. I'm getting help with depression but being sensitive is still an issue.

Is this an issue with anyone else?

It's so embarrassing, I don't think it's as acceptable for a guy to be like this.

I get teary when I watch dramas on Lifetime (which is a even worse habit for a guy). I think even conflicts online make me emotional. I think I'm easily provoked too, kinda like poking a bear at a zoo or something. Of course my relationship with my mom doesn't help. We're so sentimental. I argue with her with a lot of things almost daily, and it always ends with my mom cooling off and in a "hugging mood."

Always been a huge issue for me and I have tried again and again to disable my emotions altogether.
I simply now avoid people altogether to avoid being emotionally wounded, because I tend to rage rather than simply cry in response to emotional bruising these days.

In terms of music and films, yes, it is a bit of an embarrassment that a simple combination of notes can have me in tears, a certain story can have me getting choked up, but if someone I know has a problem, I can hardly feel a thing about it.

Yet I am sure from having lived with my aspie ex that some aspies are the opposite and really don't get affected at all emotionally by things.

I'm definitely emotionally sensitive. Music can especially bring out a lot of different emotions in me.

That has been my defense mechanism. Don't make any effort to know people personally. When I was at work I was very mum about my personal life. I thought if I gave information then they would try to get to know me then it would be too much to handle. But then I think you get labeled an a**hole (not matter how hard your trying).

Lifetime kinda bothers me anyways. It seems like the plot of every show is about how some guy does some woman wrong. Good grief!

Yeah, but its interesting to see how they eventually get out of the mess and end up with an attractive guy.

I get emotional over things that shouldn't matter and show/feel no emotion in situations where I should. Its pretty frustrating.

Yes to everything said in this thread.

I get easily offended.

this is one hell of an issue and always was
i think its an AS thing because it corresponds well with many of our other 'traits'
in a way it's harder for the males cause we are not suppose to so delicate
though i happened to meet some woman who found it very attractive and i think the trend is working for us
still
finding a woman who can get extreme sensetivity in man is not easy
perhaps AS female can get it better
there is something androgynous in autism
i like it and think we are much more manly than the macho's and can cary much heavier loads,where it really counts, then the 'men' man

I second these thoughts. I once thought it was a AS thing, but I'm not so sure anymore. As suggested, it is not common with everyone. Becoming unemotional and keeping my distance from people has helped a great deal with my work and basic survival. I would get really upset when someone used something personal I shared against me then the fallout would make things worse.

I don't think it can be overcome by "toughening up" or forcing yourself into painful situations, as that will only cause more stress and anxiety. I'm OK with being oversensitive. I'm monstrously sensitive to noise, so some days people annoy me for being plain loud. The environment does effect the emotions. I just no longer show it, as that is what always got me into trouble. Then I retreat and recharge alone when I get the chance.

Agree. My experience there is that intense forcing (especially with no sensible relief) leads to dissociation/depersonalization/numbness, which leads bad problems in the long run.

I get offended easily, I don't handle being yelled at real well, and I cry in public way too much.

Yeah, I tried this technique for many years and it didn't work. Basically, I thought it just required desensitization. I thought it would work much like the Obsession A&E series. Person has problem with ____, solution = keep doing _____ until it's no longer an issue.

This is my son. I would do anything for him not to be so sensitive.

Yeah I get teary at films, eg. Edward Scissorhands and have always been quick to cry. And yeah, that's caused a lot of teasing when I was younger. It seems to stun people more these days.

Music also can get me emotional.