Anyone hope to have an aspie child?

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For some reason I am hoping my kid will have AS too. Now I won't be alone.


If my kid ends up having another disability instead such as ADHD or dyslexia or other learning problems or just aspie traits or no mental conditions, I'd still love my child. At least my husband has aspie traits so I'm not fully alone

You have a 50/50 chance of having someone with a diagnosable ASD. The same odds for people who hope for a certain gender.

I am indifferent.

I guess that I would ideally want my child to be borderline AS/NT... I feel that I could relate to a child on (or just off) the spectrum much better than if he/she were a bona fide NT. Also, I think that it would be wonderful to be able to pass on this lense with which exoterically peer in on the superfluous absurdities of NT social reallity. I say borderline, in that it would also nice if the hypothetical youngster could have a slightly easier time than I did... sort of a 'best of both worlds' scenerio. At any rate, there isn't a great deal of sense in this line of thought, as it may well be out of my conscious control and I would be accepting and supportive of my child, no matter where he/she fell on the ASD - NT spectrum.

I hope my children have AS but like me and my wife, very mild, mild enough to have a "normal" life, but enough to be different.

If I was the marrying type, than I'd want that for our future children. Enough to be different. I'm not the marrying type, so I hope my niece will have it.

It's funny, I had never heard of Asperger's before my son's preschool wanted him tested. He was in a preschool for developmentally delayed kids because he wasn't talking or hardly at all. Up until that point everyone in the family just commented that he had inherited my personality. So there is definitely a comfort zone there. I try to teach him things I have learned but he doesn't always listen.

No one wants a kid with Autistic Disorder? Or, people don't want the other half with AS who don't work and will end up living with their parents for their whole lives [or in community housing otherwise]? Just the types who can live a relatively normal life?

There's so much irony here that I think my head will explode.

Just for the record, I would do it in a heartbeat.

Well I wouldn't mind having an aspie but I wouldn't want one who is severely autistic or pro founded. I wouldn't want an aspie who is violent and will never listen. I just hope it be like me. I wouldn't want an aspie who be lazy and refuse to do anything to help him or herself. I won't let my kid use his AS an as excuse that's for sure and giving up because he has the condition and letting it stop him.


I think that's what we're all saying here. We want an aspie kid but want him to live a normal life and stuff.

I don't want any children, with or without any disorders, but if I did want children, and I had them and they had a disability, I'd never set out to make them feel bad about things related to said disability. And if they were normal, I wouldn't criticise them for not being enough like me. It's not fair on a child to resent it because it didn't fit the template in your head of what your dream child should be.

True that. For instance D. likes top 40 country music. I'm going to keep him anyway.

I am really hoping that if/when I have a child, he/she will be mid-to-high functioning Autistic. I believe I will relate to this child more and be able to raise it better than I would an NT child.

If the child did turn out to be NT, I would still love it of course, but I doubt I would be able to care for its mental and emotional needs, due to our different neurogies, communication styles, thinking patterns, etc. I would just not be able to relate as well.

No matter the neurotype of the child, I would do my very, very best to raise it. I know the effects of being "resented" for not being the dream-image my mother had in her head of what she wanted me to be, and I will certainly avoid that.

My fiance has the same wishes as I do, only he also wants a little but of schizoid mixed in.

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You could always adopt, then there's no gambling. :3

And where is the irony? I think that any parent wants for his children the best. I think that a "touch of fire" really gives more gift than problem, so I hope they will have it, yes. And yes I hope they'll not have to much to be unable to live on their own and reach their goal. This doesn't mean that if I'll have a profound autistic child I'll not love him/her, I'll love it the same way I love my AS daughter, simply I think is not in their best wish, in the same way I hope that my children will not be depressed or that they'll be taller than me . Where is the problem for a parent to wish the best for his children. I think that a touch of autism can improve life while too much can (not must) burn it. Yet being AS with an AS wife and an AS child, the odds are that my next son will be on the spectrum and I also have an higher chance to have a "severe" autistic child than an NT parent. It's not a problem, but I still wish that he will have only a touch of it. Why a touch and not completly NT? Because I think that an AS will relate better with us than an NT and we'll be able to understand him better.

Yeah that's another reason why I want an aspie child, I think I will be a better parent and be able to understand and relate but my "NT" child, I might have a difficult time with and might not give my child what he or she needs and understand what they are going through but there is my husband. He'll help. He understands people better than me. I'll just leave that up to him. I would tell my child "Go to your dad about it. I don't know what to do or say to you." But I also think my kid be smart enough to understand my difficulties and I am not like the other moms and will know to not take things personally what I say and will respect me and accept me. I'd be unlucky if my child turned out to be a brat and a b***h and not give a s**t about my condition and refuse to understand me. That's the risk there I'm taking.

I am taking lot of risks for wanting to be a parent.