Do you analyze your communications with other people?

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I really stress myself out analyzing my communications with other people after they've happened. I always find myself wondering what people meant or if I should be upset by what they've said or if I've said something strange. I think about things that I or other people have said for days, weeks, and months even, trying to figure out what the communication between us meant. Today, my friend stopped over to my apartment with another friend and invited me to go out. I told her that i did not want to go. After she left, I kept thinking that maybe I should have said something else. She stood there for quite a while, but i didn't know what else to say. Now I can't stop thinking about whether or not I handled it wrong. Does anyone else have this overanalyzing problem?

Yee gads! Allll the time!! !!

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There are many times at night that I sit up and think of all the things I should have said, but my brain just seems too darn slow.

Yes. I go through so much turmoil afterward when I communicate with others it's not even worth it.

I can relate to Meadow.
I plan and rehearse scripts in my mind before all meetings with others.
I deconstruct and analyse ALL my interactions post-event.
I try to work things out after the event.
Sometimes I will understand the subtext of what someone was saying weeks, or months after the event.

It take up a lot of energy.
It was only when I was formally diagnosed that I learned that most human beings do not do this. I thought it was what everyone did.

Yes, I do. I don't know what good it would do if I re-play the convo over and over, and yet still I persist!

Yes Yes yes I do all of this but I have come to a point finally that I choose to have a few people I interact with one on one . I have one friend to go hiking with and we have an agreement to have no expectations of eachother. One for my daughters playdates i have another set script with ect. I have decided to just not interact with others beyond being polite and respectful to show that I don't dislike them or am not antisocial , I just have learned to stop the conversation before it becomes awkward (this is a new skill) this takes a huge burden from me.

Yes. I think it's a good skill to have. Helps us with our TOM and learning from experiance. But it doesn't tell me the right answer.

Yes, usually. I quite often analyze it quite a bit before the interaction as well, doesn't really seem to help though.

Yup, do it all the time, and am doing to pretty much forever subconciously too.

Yes, it's like a continuous loop. Also I rehearse so much what I might say to someone, after a while I can't remember if I've already said it. I'm talking about totally inconsequential statements. For instance in one of the offices I clean every week, one of the women has one of those page by page calenders. This one has pictures of shoes. I want to make the comment that I was never really into shoes but that those shoes were works of art (they are-sculptures for feet). I'm going to feel stupid if I say that exact thing and then remember that I've already said it. But yes, I replay and analyze what people say to me too. I can have completely different interpretations too.

no. i just say what i know or think. if it is not understood then that is the way the cookie crumbles.

YES! all the time, I analyze every single detail, what said what happened and how I could have said and done things diffrently. Very energytaking!!

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I have a sort of stutter when I speak in that I grope for words that seem stuck in my head. Unless I read out loud from a script or rehearse as others have written, then there is often silence.

erg I do that too...I try not to, but most of the time I just cannot help analysizing(sp?) everything I said or did in a past conversation.