NTs are not comfortable going to the cinema alone

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I overheard some NT acquaintances of mine (I won't say exactly who for privacy) have a conversation recently about how they're not comfortable going to places like restaurants and cinemas alone.

Weird, isn't it? If anything, I'd be more comfortable going alone!

Do NTs think like this because they're more scared of going alone, or is a part of their whole needing to socialise constantly thing again? I'm thinking the latter.

Its probably a mix of both

for example if they have never been to the place before, they might be a bit apprehensive in going by themselves, or the other hand, they also have the need to socialize and SHARE their experiences. (even some of us more mild aspies have that need as well)

So really there is no absolute answer to the question.

That's one thing that I was never able to understand. I'd much rather go to the movies, alone.

Well, I know non-autistics that go alone, but that's because they're huge film fans. The casual goers go as a treat and therefore they go in a group. I'm a huge film fan and I've watched plenty of videos and DVDs alone so it makes sense that I should see films alone in the theater.

going alone does sometimes attract attention. an example would be when I went to see The book of Eli. Had a few people try to get near me just so they have another person to talk to. Of course I obliged, and somehow ended up enjoying the movie even more.

I have never understood that either.

Why this fixation with not going places alone?

I had a friend in another country who really wanted to go to a concert but wouldn't because he didn't want to go alone.

WTF?

There would be a whole mosh pit full of people there, for god's sake.

I really like going alone, to movies and dinner. I like the alone time and being on my own schedule.

I would go alone, if I went to the movies.
BUT, if it's a new place (theater or elsewhere), I like if someone's with me the first time.
Then I know what the place looks like, and I know where to get what.

I don't understand going to the movies any way BUT alone. How is it a "social" event if you're going to a place where you aren't supposed to talk and just sitting alongside one another for a couple hours?

If I want to watch a movie "socially" I'll rent one that I don't really care about paying attention to and watch it at home or at a friend's place.


I mostly prefer going to restaurants alone too, but I have no problem going with other people for the most part.

I dislike going to movies and resturants by myself but I don't fear going to them alone.

I'm not comfortable going to the cinema alone or with someone. It's far too loud. I went a few times, and I hate it.

I am not comfortable going to a restaurant alone, because the waiters/waitresses seem to want to chat with me more. If I seem distracted by someone else, they leave me alone.

I think that I would be considered NT (I have son's with Asperger's), and I LOVE to go out to eat or to the movies by myself.

I used to be highly social, before children, but something about having children made me really value alone time. When I was younger, when I needed a break from child-rearing, my husband would take the kids for the evening and I would go to a restaurant for a meal, a good book, and some time by myself. I love my family, and LOVE to be with them, but as far as other people, I'm not that social any more. And particularly movies -- I really enjoy going to movies alone. That way nobody can influence my attitude about them.

I would rather go to restaurants and movies alone. One thing that drives me nuts is when people whine that they 'can't' go do something because they have no one to go with, it makes me want to knock them out...I'm not a violent person but that is way up there on my list of pet peeves...what are they going to do when it's time to die, tell god they can't because they don't have anyone to die with?

I don't like going alone! Guess I'm paranoid what if someone attacks me/kills me? Sure that store/restraunt /theater etc. are wide open but in the middle of the day there aren't many people out and they can grab you in a second!! ! One item I'm considering for when I get a job is buying a tazer. Also I unlike other Aspies who want to be alone I WANT friends and I WANT to socialize with people BEYOND my family.

I prefer to go to the movies or dinner with other people, but I think that's because I've been conditioned to feel that way. Although, I also have personal safety issues so I like to have someone with me when I go certain places. Or my dog.

I know one NT who often goes to the movies alone, and she has many friends. It's okay to go to a movie alone if you really want to see it, even for a neurotypical, although they would probably not tell their friends that they did it because there are more interesting things for them to talk about that involve other people.
But all NTs are different, and all aspies are different, too. I don't mind seeing a movie alone if it's something I really want to see.