How do you feel when people forget who you are?

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How do you feel when people forget who you are?

Well today, I added someone who I knew from primary school and he then messaged me saying he doesn't remember me and that really had bothered me and I remembered him too clearly.

He surprisingly said I looked familiar but yet STILL can't remember who i'am which was funny but when he remembered my girlfriend very clearly, I got clearly upset about it, I just feel like not talking to my girlfriend but I can't do that, because it is pretty stupid reason to not talk to her.

Anyone been in a similar state before?

Roger Meyers didn't remember who I was when I wanted to attend my first aspie gathering. He saw me in 2007 but had no memory of me a year later when I called him to see if his group was still going on that day because it snowed. Where I live, places close when it snows a few inches and schools are cancelled and people don't go into work.
It was very weird he didn't remember me. But he only saw me once so maybe he forgot about me.

It doesn't bother me if someone doesn't remember me. Partially because I have problems remembering people, and if I can't remember people, I don't expect it from anyone else. Also, I don't particularly stand out in any way that would make me memorable.

I can relate to this quite a bit, mostly in grades K-12 I seemed to have an (almost disturbingly) uncanny knack for remembering the names and faces of people I went to school with -- for some reason I always recognized, knew-names-of and remembered the people around me in school but many times found this "one-way street." This definitely had a level of hurt and embarrassment attached with it and to this day I still have a lot of trouble gauging other people's level of recognition. It's been many years since I've crossed paths with a former classmate, but if I had a chance to reconnect I don't know what I'd say to most of them anyway.

There are a handful of certain people, however, that I would really like to say hi to again -- even if the don't remember me.

For these few individuals, it's because of something in their character that stood out in a positive way. I'd likely just want to tell them "hey I just remember you were really kind to other people" or something and leave it as a short (but genuine) complement and wish them well on the rest of their day.

How well I would actually DO in this situation today is hard to say, as I haven't encountered any former classmates in years (at least not counting the ones that I've already stayed in contact with). But I am hoping I could execute with sincerity and not pass on the next opportunity.

At first I'm usually taken aback a little, but since I suck at remembering names, faces, and voices more than anyone I've ever met, I forgive them just as quickly.

I have the opposite problem. People remember me, and usually pretend they can't see me. If somebody doesn't remember me, my heart leaps for joy, because it's a new start.


Sorry Ian, I can't relate, but if it bothers you, know that it happens to everybody, at least sometimes.

i don't mind too much, it is only fair because i always forget who other folk are. even if i have worked with them for ages- if i see them outside the context of work, it takes me way too long to recognize them, and even if they say nothing i know they are not impressed with me. many times i have been told, "don't you know who i am?" i just don't have the facial recognition gene.

I don't really care if people don't remember me from primary school.
I know a lot of bands, and as their heavy drinking/touring/meeting lots of people lifestyle goes they can't remember everybody. It does sometimes disappoint me but I understand it, and try to see them as much as possible.

I don't expect people from primary school to remember me so it doesn't bother me. I was very quiet and tried to go unnoticed to avoid being bullied. Although I remember almost everyone who I saw at my primary school I've learned that most people don't remember others unless they either liked them or disliked them in some way or another.

Surprised. Normally, people remember me years after they last saw me, and I'm desperately trying to find clues to who they are.

I feel a bit upset when people don't remember me because for some reason I generally remember a persons face but not their name. I had an old friend from school that for some reason hardly remembered me and that was strange considering we were best friends and even went on holiday together twice.

I'll tell you what's really upsetting is when your own Grandparents don't recognise you!! !!

I remember bumping into my Grandparents at a supermarket years ago and they looked at me like I was going to rob them when I approached. They didn't have a clue who I was and it had only been a year since I'd last seen them. That was very odd!! They have both now since passed away.

Naw I don't care. I probably prefer they don't remember me so I can improve on the last time we met.

It doesn't bother me that people don't remember me. The kids who did remember me, just kept on teasing me, anyways.