Aspie Girls Awkwardness

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Ok so we all know that aspie girls mask and camoflauge their difficulties and often come across as normal. Because of this: do a lot of aspie girls just not have that outward awkwardness about them? Im speaking strictly from a outside perspective. I was wondering. How exactly do you aspie girls mask and camoflauge your difficulties? Cause I really dont know how to as an aspie girl. I cant fake things for s**t.

I look awkward. I can't help it. But people don't think, "Oh, she has Asperger's," they just think, "She's awkward and weird."

Some days are better than others for me but I still think there is awkwardness, worse in new situations and around new people.

I'm pretty obvious...

I'm pretty awkward and obvious. I'm a Dandy in a dangerous world. It's like I'm a Kink in a video game and the NTs of the younger generation are my enemies. I get a certain ammount for each one I shoot. I like it that way.

For me there are two sides to the coin. I'm attractive and well-dressed, so I look normal on the outside. When I'm feeling very shy/awkward people assume that I'm stuck-up and hate them.

It's a myth that Asperger's girls are all able to mimic and hide their autism. I get so sick of hearing it. I think girls are more likely to have the ability to do this, but it isn't universal.

people just think im nervous

As a kid, I was identified as gifted really early on. I heard all the time that the reason I didn't fit in with the other kids was due to my giftedness, so it never occurred to me that there was something wrong with me. Until high school, which is a completely different story. My attitude was basically: I don't have to conform to everyone else; everyone else should conform to me!

I have been able to hide my difficulties fairly well, and it has gotten better over the years. A lot of it is to do with faking or "going through the motions"...basically through observation and research I have learned the "correct ways" to position my eyes, use gestures, do body language etc, to the point where I give the appearance of an outgoing, confident NT: even when I'm at my most vulnerable, I plaster the fake, stupid smile on. It used to be incredibly exhausting for me when I first started gaining the skills, but now I've done them so much taht I simple can't erase these things away as most of these have become automatic. As for how I've learned this, I'm still trying to figure it out, but I was essentially forced/scared into it as I thought the only way I could be was NT.

I don't think I have that outward awkwardness, they think I'm just very shy.

I think awkwardness is fairly hard to mask unless it isn't very extreme. I find sometimes I just cannot help by be completely awkward.