What should I do from here?

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I have some body image issues esspecially my height is a concern for me becuase i am only 5ft10. my younger brother who is 18 and taller than me is 6ft and today he walked in through the door and started annoying when i was sitting in the computer poking me and calling me a hobo becuase i am unemployed and have got a beard at the moment. he then bite me on the cheek which really annoyed me and i lashed out at him and shouted and sweared at him.

we then got into an argument and he said "I am stronger then you so do not bother trying to initimdate me" he also went on to say "Get over it you will not grow any taller". he then said one thing which really got to me "If you don't like your height and who you are then seriously go kill yourself, what is the point on living on"

That really hurt me because i cherish life. Any advice because i feel awful after the argument. My dad also told me to kill myself a month ago.

Why do you feel your height is that important? Is it just because everyone tells you think you ought to be taller? Isn't there things that are more important in life like the ability to cope with problems or to grow flowers or to learn a bunch of foreign languages or whatever it is you think you are good in? 5ft10 doesn't sound that short to me either, I wouldn't expect you to have problems to get stuff out of the upper shelves at the local supermarket, for example.

If you can't find work and have the feeling you need something useful to do, how about charity? Help the lady next door with her garden, look after kids from your neighbourhood, do whatever gives you a sense of doing something and keeps your family from telling you you're useless. You might even earn a few tips that way.
Building up your self esteem might also be helpful. Doing things is a great way to do this. It needn't be big or useful things, just something you can point to and say "I'm the one who has done this!" Grab a few boards and some nails and build a bird house if you can't think of anything else. The birdies will love you for it!

Seriously, I find it exagerated to do such a thing for two inches and a job less than your bro... If you're happy in who you are, don't let the others always make you want more about yourself. You are who you are, and nobody have the right to make you sad about it!

i thought i was 5'11 but my brother said i was 5'10. If i was 6'5 my brother would not be bullying me.

my brother does have a point though my height is something that i am finding very hard to come to terms with. maybe its just some teenage problems that i might grow out of eventually?

If the people in your life are not supportive, you need to be your own best supporter. Treat yourself like you would want to be treated, or how you would treat any other person you care about. Stop bashing yourself and thinking negative things about yourself, and telling yourself that you aren't a good person.

I know this may sound hokey, but you really need to learn to be good to yourself, especially if the people around you are giving you negative feedback.

And btw, 5'10" is not short.

Yeah Wavefreak i also stood next to my brother in the mirror and we measured ourselves up. Honestly there looked not as much 2.5 inches between us but he just said "Yeah 2 1/2 inches" i think he is just doing his best to put me down about myself.

He did lash out at me and say "Your selfish and you only care about yourself" which is true i must admit

1) Do you help people sometimes?
2) Do you care about what's happening in the life of someone?

If you answered yes you're not as selfish as you believe you are...

Sometimes I do help people. At least I think I do?

Even if you only try to help and don't actually achieve what you were aiming for, that counts. The thought is important. Just keep trying and at least some of what you do will help somebody.

The problem is I am feeling depressed and unhappy at the moment and i am a burden on everyone else becasue of it.

Jamesy, you are human. Thus you cannot be perfect. It will help you to find some peace of soul to accept that fact.

At th same time, I think it is important to try to be as perfect as you can. Try to help people. Try to find a job. Try to find a way to get along with your brother. If you succeed, that's great and will make your life easier. But if you don't succeed, that does not mean that you are worthless. It just means that you are not perfect. Just like the rest of us.

3 years ago i was not so depressed and my friends enjoyed my company. but i don't think its just me that has changed its them as well.

i find that exercising and going to the gym helps me feel better mentally its just that i ran out of money for it nearly 1 year ago