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Do you ever avoid your interests because you're scared about getting into them so much you will lose track of time or neglect other responsibilities?
All the time 10%  10%  [ 5 ]
Frequently 18%  18%  [ 9 ]
Sometimes 30%  30%  [ 15 ]
Never 42%  42%  [ 21 ]
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14 Mar 2011, 9:29 pm

Just wondering about special interests, does anyone sometimes avoid their interests because they're scared about getting into them so much that they will lose track of time or neglect other responsibilities?

I might run a poll too...



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14 Mar 2011, 9:37 pm

Sadly yes. I hold off on videogames or college work (both special interests) if I know we might go somewhere or I might need to do chores but some times the temtation is too much and I wrap myself in my interest and lost trach of time and forget chores and such. My parents HATE IT! They don't understand Asperger's at all!! !! Into a game a lot (OMG we are never taking you to buy another game again!! !!) College a lot (STOP you're being obsessive other people aren't like that!! !!) There is no pleasing them sadly. :-( I totally get where you are coming from though.



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14 Mar 2011, 9:50 pm

I don't. I enjoy them to the fullest. :)


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14 Mar 2011, 9:54 pm

I won't play around at the edges. I want total immersion or nothing.


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14 Mar 2011, 10:09 pm

Not really, because I don't really have any. Unfortunately.



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14 Mar 2011, 10:34 pm

zeldapsychology wrote:
College a lot (STOP you're being obsessive other people aren't like that!! !!)


Yes, and "other people" often end up flunking out. :lol:


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14 Mar 2011, 10:39 pm

No, I never worry about that, I have a lot of free time.

You need one JMNixon. :o



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14 Mar 2011, 11:12 pm

When I read the title of your topic, I thought you meant who has a scary special interest, lol. I collected horror movie posters for a brief time as an adolescent. Some people were freaked out by it. You could say said posters were sorta scary, but not to me. I thought I was collecting something that would one day have value and would become collectors items and be worth lots of money. Same with antique keys, I believed if I could collect as many as possible, anyone else wanting to buy one would have to come to me and I could set my own price, heh. It was naive since I'm sure there are thousands if not millions of them. How could I possibly find and buy them all?
I never get scared of losing myself in an interest, though.



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14 Mar 2011, 11:21 pm

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14 Mar 2011, 11:30 pm

I try to avoid my interests when I know that I only have a limited amount of time. Once I get started, stopping is difficult. Even when I do manage to stop, I have a hard time focusing my mind on anything else, so whatever I do afterward is pretty much done in a half-hearted manner.


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14 Mar 2011, 11:41 pm

Yensid wrote:
I try to avoid my interests when I know that I only have a limited amount of time. Once I get started, stopping is difficult. Even when I do manage to stop, I have a hard time focusing my mind on anything else, so whatever I do afterward is pretty much done in a half-hearted manner.


This. When I know I have to do something else, I don't get into my interests.

"Scared" isn't the right word, though.



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15 Mar 2011, 12:08 am

I'll never stop. I try to limit them when I have other responsibilities, but I live for me special interests. When I had a girlfriend, she kept me from my special interests for days at a time, and as a result of that I had a lot of problems trying to muster up the desire to so anything. Performance at work suffered because I had no desire to do anything. My relationship with my girlfriend and others suffered, as I would not enguage as much anf felt "disconnected" from everything. When I returned to my special interests, everything went back to normal. I never had withdraws and was not "addicted", but everything in my life was so boring. It was certainly an interesting experiment.



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15 Mar 2011, 5:23 am

I never thought in terms with special interests but there were "hobbies" I would immerse myself in that kept me focussed and calm (I know now same thing). I always hated having to snap out of hobby mode to do other things.

Since becoming a parent and being in a relationship, I cannot have special interests because I cannot immerse myself in them without some distraction or other. Long gone are the days/weeks/months of enjoying my hobbies.

If I'm honest it leaves me pretty empty and my family don't understand. The bf doesn't do hobbies and makes me feel guilty for not spending our childfree time together and a toddler will never understand until much older that mum is different and needs this time to compose herself.



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15 Mar 2011, 8:31 am

conundrum wrote:
zeldapsychology wrote:
College a lot (STOP you're being obsessive other people aren't like that!! !!)


Yes, and "other people" often end up flunking out. :lol:


You always are so true and make me laugh at an upsetting situation. YOU ARE AWESOME!



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15 Mar 2011, 10:24 am

The thought never occurs.
Once I get into it, that's that - I stay with it until I'm done, where 'done' can mean completed/needs further research/sub-testing or I get too sleepy-tired to continue.
And my first waking thought is to get right back into it.

Otherwise I'd just be sitting in a rocking chair, probably tearing up sheets of paper and mumbling to myself.


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15 Mar 2011, 1:35 pm

no, i am actually afraid that ill lose interest in my special interests
i think im starting to, because i find that i like Yoshi from Mario as much as i like Gaara from Naruto now!


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