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Which type of communication do you prefer?
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02 Apr 2011, 2:22 pm

Is is said that aspies prefer online communication over face-to-face communication, which type do you find easier? I actually prefer face to face communication because I misinterpret things that are said online easily because you can't hear tone, see expressions or get a quick response you say "What do you mean?"


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02 Apr 2011, 3:01 pm

If it's with someone I've known for a long time offline (in fact anyone I've known offline) I don't talk to them online, in the past I've always been unsure what's going on when IMing people I've known offline as I can't see whether the person I'm chatting with is actively talking to me or just communicating in a nonchalant way, it really confuses me along with many other clues I miss online. On the other hand if I've only known the person online then I guess I prefer communicating online with them, as it'd be much easier than chatting to them face to face, for some reason I don't get confused like the former, unsure why, not sure if it makes sense. I also recently emailed the psych I go to for my ADD telling him I'd prefer to communicate via email in the future, after finding it very hard to get across anything I wish to say whenever I've met him in the past. I wish I could merge the two together, maybe I can take a laptop next time, I'll chat IM style with him in another room for 15 min then go in & chat with him face to face for the other 15.



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02 Apr 2011, 3:11 pm

I prefer online communication, because it's not as quickly paced as talking face to face, and I don't have to force myself to give eye contact.


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02 Apr 2011, 3:25 pm

I prefer online because I have time to think of an answer, i dont have to acknowledge who I am talking to, I can say things without messing up words or looking awkward. I know I am allowed to speak.



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02 Apr 2011, 4:48 pm

I like email, don't like chat or web camming, hate the idea of texting on a phone (that is a problem with my hands), don't like talking on the phone.



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02 Apr 2011, 4:49 pm

I way way way prefer in person. Actually I used to hate computers and probably still do, they're just the way you can communicate when you don't have what it takes to actually go out and interact with humans in the flesh. (Me I mean.)

Same reasons as you in fact OCDgirl! That and I actually love being around people and making eye contact with them and listening to them talk and so on. It's stressful but there really is nothing like being around people in real life.



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02 Apr 2011, 4:57 pm

I definitely prefer online, because I have very much difficulty communicating verbally. I don't pick up any of the benefit that other people seem to from face-to-face. I had a neighbor who, except for rare and quiet adventures out, I would only speak to via email. I still do, actually. She's just not my neighbor anymore. I also don't like IM and live chats though. They are too demanding.



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02 Apr 2011, 5:04 pm

I prefer online communication. With that, I am able to look over the conversation numerous if I need to. With face to face communication I can't replay the conversation if there is something I don't understand---unless I ask the person to repeat what they said.


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02 Apr 2011, 5:50 pm

I hate face to face, or any real-time communication because I can see/hear myself losing before I even get out a complete thought. With most forms of written communication, whether or not online, I can retain a sense of mastery over the content...at least until I get an answer.



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02 Apr 2011, 9:47 pm

To OP: not all Aspies prefer this. I would suggest adding "some" or "many" when you make posts like this.

Anyways, I slightly digress.

I prefer online (typed), because not all online communication is typed.



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03 Apr 2011, 1:32 am

I prefer online.

With online you don't have to worry about their posturer, or expression, or tone, or hand motions, or any of the other things that go into talking with someone. you don't have to try and figure out if there is a double meaning, you don't have to "read between the lines". online you can take things at face value, if you misunderstand someone it's rarely your fault, it's their fault for not being clear with what they mean.


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03 Apr 2011, 1:36 am

Face to face communication offers too much distraction, too many emotions and too much confusion in tone of voice. People expect you to know what they mean, when online even they can misinterpret what was said.

I prefer one on one private messaging. You get to really know a person and spend time constructing what you want to say.


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03 Apr 2011, 2:20 am

jmnixon95 wrote:
To OP: not all Aspies prefer this. I would suggest adding "some" or "many" when you make posts like this.

Anyways, I slightly digress.

I prefer online (typed), because not all online communication is typed.


Sorry, I am an EXTREMELY black and white thinker.

I also hate "some" or "many" polls because those words mean different things to different people. Like for me, having 2 cokes a week would be a lot because I don't drink coke, but to someone who is addicted to coke, may say that 15 or more cokes is a lot.

Can you tell me about non-typed internet communication?

I would prefer to not make polls anymore rather than add "some" or "many" options.


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03 Apr 2011, 9:50 am

ocdgirl123 wrote:
Can you tell me about non-typed internet communication?


Pictures and videos are all that I can really think of at the moment, but it's fine because they are very prominent on the internet.

ocdgirl123 wrote:
I also hate "some" or "many" polls because those words mean different things to different people. Like for me, having 2 cokes a week would be a lot because I don't drink coke, but to someone who is addicted to coke, may say that 15 or more cokes is a lot.


Yes, they are subjective terms, but when you are talking about a specific group of people or things (such as people with AS or ASDs), the Coke analogy doesn't quite pertain to the discussion. A group of people isn't as subjective as a soft drink preference.

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I would prefer to not make polls anymore rather than add "some" or "many" options.


I was talking about the original post, not the poll itself. I was just warning you that there are some people who attack immediately (more than I did) when they see something that either implies or explicitly states "all people like this" or "all people with this." (ex: "All people with black hair are Asian." A more accurate statement is "Many people with black hair are Asian.")



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03 Apr 2011, 11:09 am

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03 Apr 2011, 11:27 am

I said face to face but that depends on who I'm speaking with. Family, loved ones, friends would certainly be face to face. I do enjoy online communication with people I would never have the opportunity to meet face to face and this type of communication allows me to meet, make friends and have conversations with people from all over the world. Online communication of this type occupies a great deal of my time, has taught me a lot and is extremely enjoyable and satisfying. However, there is a serious drawback to online communication and forming friendships with certain types of internet communities and that is the issue of authenticity. One particular site that I frequent is populated by a group of people who seem to be adherents to the Fakester Manifesto. Many tricksters, sock puppets and members with multiple identities and usernames who enjoy the practice of deception. I don't believe this is a problem on WP, at least I have never run into it here.