I can not do due to my Aspergers......

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Some of the things I can not do due to my Aspergers are:
I can not drive a car due to my Aspergers.
I can not work well in a team due to my Aspergers.
I can not communicate effectively with other people due to my Aspergers.
I can not hold down permanent employment due to my Aspergers.
I can not manage time effectively due to my Aspergers.
I find it hard to make the right decisions/choices due to my Aspergers.
I find it hard to tell the truth due to my Aspergers.
I find it hard to not laugh at inappropriate times due to my Aspergers.
I find it hard to openly express my feelings and emotions due to my Aspergers.
I find life very challenging due to my Aspergers.

So what things you can not do or find difficult because of your Aspergers?

Last edited by Dark_Lord_2008 on 07 May 2011, 9:36 am, edited 1 time in total.

Some of the things I can do due to being autistic:

Be more rational
Focus on the person, rather than the ritual
Calculate 3 digit multiplication (IE 427 * 392) in my head (and the only reason I can't do better is because I haven't bothered to work on it)
Notice patterns better than anyone I know
Become an expert in subjects (quite easily, in fact)

This is off the top of my head. I may post later with more.

(I am fully aware of the topic title and the purpose of this thread)

I have no executive function to speak of couldnt be a boss
I cant prioritize
I take things very literally
can't sense emotions or that other people think differently
can't seem to obtain a romantic relationship because I just can't connect.
I am a very black and white thinker

MrLooney, I love your take on the thread. Great post!

I have an eidetic memory. My brain has a video recording of virtually any moment in my life, if I am asked about it.
I can easily remember and store categories of information.
I'm naturally artistic.
I'm naturally musical.
I'm logical, and not bound by the usual emotional restraints.

I wouldn't change if I could...now that I know "how" I am different, I am trying to embrace the differences.

I have learned the hard way how to communicate. I still make mistakes I view it as lifelong learning. This learning will never be done. I found your posting to be a bit too negative. But it's good that you're being a realist too. How about a list of what you can do ?

I suck as giving emotional support
I have a hard time with social cues and non verbal cues and body language
I have a hard time remembering directions
I take things literal
I struggle in groups
I struggle with getting a job
I have anxiety
I cannot handle stress well
I tend to be very concrete
I tend to say things lot of people wouldn't normally say
I tend to be too honest or too open
I tend to repeat things people do to me I have no idea that is wrong to do (the "cheap" incident anyone?)
I have a hard time reading between the lines
I tend to see things differently.
I suck at relationships and find them exhausting if I have to keep following the inane rules
I "lack" empathy.
My voice tends to be too loud
I don't express myself well (emotions and feelings)

I dunno if this is all AS related so that's why I don't blame things on my AS 90% of the time.

Work
Go anywhere by myself, even though I drive, sort of
Sit through anything, including church
Do anything with money beyond, "Mom, can I buy this or do I need to wait?"

Can't think of anything else. How about what I can do?

I can learn and remember things very well.
I can read super fast.
I can solve those mind trick kind of puzzles that stump everyone else.
I can set a goal and reach it (believe it or not, a lot of people can't do this very well).
Write.

Things I can't Do because I am between jobs.

Drive a car.
Go back to college.
Pay my bills.
Have a place of my own to live.
Have my own computer again and not constantly be using the library's.
Not catch up on episodes of Doctor Who or things that are of interest to me.

Things I can't do because I have no money.

Pretty much all of the above.

Things I can't do because of crippling fear or a lack of ease.

Work in any kind of food service other than dishwashing.
Drive a Car.

Things I Can't Do Because Other People Have to make a Decision Too

Get a job.
Earn money for the luxuries I enjoy and to live in a place of my own.
Lost my job for a stupid ass reason even though I was good at it. They couldn't see past one stupid mistake that was made because I was doing as I was told by managers. And no, it was not my inability to read past the superficial nature of their instructions. I did precisely as I was told to do, as I was told I would lose hours if I didn't do them.

I can't do these things because someone has to decide to hire me when I apply for a job. They have to look past their misconceptions and give me work.

Things I can't do because of Asperger's.

There is nothing that Asperger's is preventing me from doing. None of the characteristics of Asperger's prevents me from doing anything.

My decisions, my past failures, and the actions of people who were supposed to be on my side lead to the things I can't do now.

Asperger's was a great excuse for those people who screwed me over. But it's not going to be my excuse for not getting things done. I will always own my failures and I will never shift the blame for my own actions onto someone else.

I just wish other people would have the same decency.

Nobody will employ due to the stereotype against AS
I can not communicate effectively with most people due to my AS
People treat me differently than they do to eachother due to my AS
There's always something ''odd'' about the way I look due to my AS
I can't go to bars and clubs due to my AS
I find it hard to tell the truth due to my AS
I can't seem to be relaxed in social situations due to my AS
I can't put make-up on properly due to my Dyspraxia
I find it extremely hard to tolerate toddlers and their ear-piercing noise due to my AS
I embarrass myself all the time when I fancy men due to my AS
I find I hate everything about me, probably due to my AS (I hate my name, personality, disability, colour skin, colour eyes, colour hair, build, and everything else about me, and I know that if I looked the opposite to what I do, I would still hate it. It must be the unconfidence in me.)

Things I CAN do due to my AS are....um....I can't think. Anything I can do are just things what anyone can do. I can't remember or learn things very well, even if I'm interested (I suppose that should be in the list above). I don't know what AS ''allows'' me to do. It allows me to whine, cry at inappropriate things, be anxious over minor things.....
Can't think of anything good it allows me to do. Therefore, I hate having it.

Just when is having a hard time telling the truth an aspie thing now? What do you guys mean by it? I thought "difficulty telling a lie" would be an aspie thing. I also thought being honest was an aspie thing even though NTs can be honest too.

I think that we're particularly more likely to have a hard time telling the truth if we believe that we've done something wrong. Whilst this may be universal amongst everyone to an extent, we're probably more likely to make the so-called wrong-doing a more serious issue than it may actually be - just my experience. I'm not sure if this is what others are referring to - It may be something completely different, but I'll leave it to them to explain if that is the case.

I find it difficult to tell a lie, yes.

I cannot seem to get a job.
I cannot hold a conversation on the telephone.
I cannot take criticism or perceived criticism.
I cannot express to others how bad I feel.
I cannot always identify the emotions I feel.
I cannot lie, I cannot even tell white lies.
I cannot just ignore an incorrect comment.
I cannot tell appropriate length of time for eye contact.
I cannot clearly repeat myself without sounding patronising.
I cannot figure out how to maintain friendships.
I cannot grasp weights and measurements.
I cannot figure out how people live their lives.


I find it very difficult to use the telephone at all.
I find it difficult to work in groups.
I find it difficult not to be bossy as hell.
I find it difficult to sound intelligent.
I find it difficult not to babble.
I find it difficult not to give out too much information.
I find it difficult to avoid saying inappropriate things.
I find it hard to be empathetic or warm towards others.
I find it difficult to accept growing old.
I find it difficult to stand-up for myself.

I can remember science facts forever but forget how old I am.
Can balance 3 months in some ones check book in a half hour but cant remember to mall a bill out.
I do drive but forget wear Im going some times.
Im still messing up common words and studier on the key board.
I mess up similes witch, there, ect.
I have a hard time with body language.
I have a hard time remembering directions.
I take things too literal.
I struggle in groups.
I am anxious around others.
I can not handle stress very well
I tend to say things i should not say say
I tend to be too open
I don't reading between the lines
I see things differently.
Having said all this it will never stop me from my goals,
I suck at relationships
I seem to have no empathy.
I suck as giving emotional support

Having said this I will never let it stop me from reaching my goals, if I could just remember what they were.

Last edited by johnny77 on 07 May 2011, 8:56 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I used to be more like Mrloony.

I give myself a wide berth, but do quite well!



GENERALLY due to OTHERS for me! It is funny, I help them out more than they ever help me. I once got a bad mark in shop because I supposedly did "ZILCH"! I had THE key part of the project! I had to build the JIG. That required knowing the DIMENSIONS, etc... The designer REFUSED to give them to me.



Again, generally because of OTHERS for me!



Probably due to the above,



You have to track time, and plan accordingly.



For ME, it is due to others.



For me, ONLY when the truth doesn't fit the requirement. I LOVE it(sarc), when they DEMAND a yes/no to a question that can NOT be answered truthfully in that way.



OK, I'll give you THAT.

i can't..........

get a social life
take a bus
feel comfortable witha mobile phone(i realy do hate them with a passion!)
eat most foods and drinks
go out
have friends
explain my true feelings
ever attempt driving lessons
see a point in anything anymore
lie
make small talk
be happy
be normal
like any kind of music
get on well with people my own age or not
show any signs of confidence
stop hating certain people
ever attempt getting a job
can't see a future
get out of my depression(the aspergers makes it a million times worse)
understand some jokes
go to parties
go out anywhere
be seen in public with an adult
stop caring about how others view me
prevent myself from getting numb lips when im nervous
find anyone that truly understands
trust anyone
stop obsessing
show appropriate body language
stay foccused for long
recite a situation when asked and explain the ordeal to someone
stop giggling at inapproprriate times
control my anger
tell jokes
find an interest in anything
stop wanting to die
see myself as a capable person
be independent
see any hope
do most practical things
be myself
attract people

I cannot have a big social circle due to my Aspergers
I cannot work in my field related to my degree due to my Aspergers
I cannot be like my almost perfect brother (who my parents always compared me to) due to my Aspergers
I cannot qualify for vocational rehab due to my Aspergers (where I live, you need to have more impairments than just AS)
I cannot hang out with my old family friends due to my Aspergers (they will look at me as a big failure)