How do you deal with nosey people?

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I can't stand it when some people don't mind thier own bussiness! What is this fastination with prying into the affairs with others?
I have never understood this!!

When I have been intruded upon, that is once I discover it, I'm angry and seek some form of retaliation! Tonight it's going to be holloween pranks I have given people mis-information before or simply hidden things from them!

Defenestration

I ignore such pests. I don't care what others know or think about me.

Do what I do
Tell them to p*ss off and get out of it.

MerciXFaveur, thanks for adding to my vocabulary. Perfect.

I hate gossip. Sometimes I deliberately tell lies about myself, just to see how far it goes ... and morphs.

Unfortunately, the less some people know about you, the more they want to fill in the blanks with their own imaginations.

I tell them to go away and/or leave me alone. How is my life so interesting to you, random person?

I can't stand nosy people either. There is one lady in my town that is infamous for being nosy. She hears everything. One time I was at a school meeting and in a soft voice mentioned to a fellow teacher (during a break) about my old best friend in school getting a divorce. This nosy lady was a custodian at the school and was standing many feet down the hallway. Her huge ears overheard my conversation and she said to me, "And what's this I hear?" I thought, "Oh no." She angers me with this thriving on gossip. In this case I just tried to quickly brush it off and find myself quickly occupied once again with the meeting that would be resuming soon. I avoid her and other people who are nosy.

I would just say MYOB please (mind your own buisness)

Nosey people aren't exactly a problem of mine.

I have often given nosey people incompleat information to allow them to come up to the wrong conclusions sometimes setting them up for some kind of prank! Other times I have gotten mean and agressive and scared them away!

Last night my nosey nieghbors got a smelly present that my dog donated!

People who won't mind thier own business are just asking for it!!

I'm guilty of being nosey in the past because I was trying to be social and have conversations and join in the chit chat but after getting so many meanness, I don't bother socializing anymore and I bet people wonder why I am so quiet

I realize I don't know how to join in conversations and I am to not talk to anyone unless spoken too. So if everyone is talking around me, I act like I am not there.

"Why do you ask?" is somewhat polite "NT speak" for, "I'd like to know why you want to know, because what you are asking is kind of personal in my opinion."

Asking the question takes the pressure off of you to answer, and puts it back on them to explain why they feel they should know. It also alerts them that you think maybe it's not a good idea for them to know, depending on their answer.

What constitutes a "personal question" differs from person to person.

"Where are you from?" or "Where do you live?" Are usually just common questions people ask as a way to "get to know you." Most people don't consider questions like that to be "too personal." Others do. Everybody has different levels of comfort in sharing information about themselves. Asking questions is the only way to find out what another persons comfort level is.

Nothing at all wrong with letting them know when a question is too personal. Saying "MYOB," or something like it, is kind of rude. Asking a question like "Why do you want to know," isn't rude at all, but does alert the person that you are definitely not comfortable with them asking.

Aspies are not the only ones who don't like answering these types of questions. Being careful who you share information about yourself with, in this day and age, is a concern for a lot of people, and for damned good reasons.

I had no idea "why do you ask?" was a polite way. I just thought they were curious so I have adopted that question too into my communication. I really do wonder why they ask. I also ask "why?" after I get done answering. The whole time I had been ignoring their curious question. Oh boy now I wonder how I must have came off?


MYOB puts me off too and I just think of them as rude people and never want to talk to them ever again. I view them as unfriendly and that you can't be social with them because nothing is your business. If something wasn't my business, then how do I know what else isn't my business? So I leave them alone and never speak to them again. Lot of women respond this way at Babycenter because they are a bunch of rude women and if they feel something isn't a person's business, how hard is it to not answer the darn question? It's not like the OP sent them a message asking them to their face. Instead they posted a thread and do not answer it if they don't feel it's no one's business. I don't post MYOB here in threads. I just don't answer the OP.

Well I just learned something new about these questions. Now I will read between the lines.

It depends on who they are and why and how they are being nosey. If they get too intrusive ask why they are stalking you. If they ask questions say I don't have to answer or it's none of your business. Tell them to get a life.