Getting along with other aspies

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I don't know, but I get the feeling this youth group with aspergers didn't like me very much. They were younger, and I was 27 when I first started going, but they seemed all happy around eachother, and not to even notice me. I usually ended up talking to the parents. Does this ever happen to you? Am I not aspie enough, or too aspie?

I guess I don't really count, because I currently only know one Aspie. I have no issues with talking to that particular Aspie.

I don't think you should worry about being "Too Aspie", because those other Aspies are probably thrilled to see others like them their own age.

I feel that way a lot-I don't know what the heck I did to make people not like me when they won't a lot of the time even talk to me-everyone says I should walk up to people and start but when I have aspie or NT turn away-I can get the hint that you don't want anything to do with me and another aspie that I hang out with tells me to start going out on my own-wait I want t hang out with people so I don't go places alone all of the time-it made no sense.

That's how I feel. I don't find talking to an Aspie any easier than talking to an NT.
I never know what people are thinking, and if they're hinting at me that they want me to go away, I usually don't notice. Being an Aspie is fun.

Yep, I'm thinking it's more a matter of "too old" than "too aspie".

yea I never can make friends. Seems like no one has any interest in being friends with me.

Yeah, pretty much. Also, I'm leaning toward I'm not aspie enough. Somebody on this thread described it perfectly:

you approach them and introduce yourself, and they turn away and don't seem even a little interested in talking.

In the past I would have figured if I can't make friends with other aspies, then how could I make friends with NTs? But...I now know that's not a rational way of looking at it. I'm lucky that I've had NT friends and a variety of acquaintances, so I think it's not that I'm such a freak that they won't talk to me, it's just a conflict of personality. I could be wrong though- maybe I did something inappropriate and didn't realize it. Either way, it sometimes hurts a little.

People tell me "well if they wont talk to you then they aren't worth knowing at all" well if everyone keeps turning away and I do not talk to anyone-it's still lonely and does that mean no one is worth talking to-I even seem to get ignored by others even in online social media-they have never met me in person and I don't know what I could have possibly typed to offend them.

I've found it's easier for me to click with other Aspies since we usually have so much in common, what with our brains working the same way, having the same humor that would be offensive to most NTs, same interests in shows, games, etc. etc.
It also depends on a good or bad day. On a good day I can be extroverted with them, but on a bad day, I just sink into myself and just listen and let other people do the talking.

I'm a horrible person. All the other people I've known with Aspergers or Autism were more autistic than I was and I never even tried to connect with them, instead I tried to distance myself from them as much as possible, and I tried to bring them down in order to father distance myself and to bring myself up. As I said, I'm a horrible person and now I cannot forgive myself and I just want to be able to apologize to them and be forgiven.

Well... that's not nice of you to bring them down, but you are fifteen. If you genuinely feel bad about what you did, and want to apologize, then you're not so horrible. Even most thirty year olds can't bring themselves to apologize when they've been mean.

This was a few years ago. I've changed quite a bit since then. I can't make amends as I'm in another country from them and I have no means of contacting them.

I can kind of relate. I once went to a youth club when I was 15, and it was for teenagers with disabilities. I think I was the only Aspie there, I think there might have been others with a severe case Autism, and the rest had other developmental disabilities what affected their social/intellectual learning. But I found I didn't really fit in - instead I found I got more friendly with the volunteers there who were just there to help out (they were NTs).

But yet if I went to a youth club where NTs go to hang out, I wouldn't fit in not even a bit.

Strange, eh?

I want to prove I'm NT by offering awesome NT insight but... I don't know. I'm guessing that you were closest, psychologically, to the volunteers there who wanted to "talk to the disabled people" and they found you the easiest to talk to you, but in an NT youth club, they would find each other easier to talk with, and people naturally prefer talking to those they most easily relate to.

Any NTs in the house? Rate my social insight!

Analyzing one social situation where all the information is in text does not prove anything. As an Aspie I could have came to that conclusion myself.

Or so you say. Jealous much?