Bond between aspies

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Several months ago I met a guy during my first week of classes at school. He met me and my group of friends, and pretty soon after exchanging names he told us he had Aspergers. One of my friends pointed at me and said "so does she", and the guy says "people with Aspergers don't really feel a bond just because they're both aspies". I never really thought about it, but I guess I feel the same way as him, although I'm sure everyone doesn't feel that way. What about you guys?

It depends on the type of person. Finding another autistic is so rare and I've only met 2 in my life. The eccentric/crazy autistic is my kind. I know one who is too polluted with the lack of social willpower caused by the y2k generation's social disintegration... The other is too controversial to associate with

Well considering that the two people both have a social disorder which makes social interaction and bonding difficult no. I've known a few aspies throughout my life, some I was able to befriend others I was not able to. Its much the same as NTs.

Finding someone like me does give me an instant bond in the form that I feel comfortable being myself with them, whilst with 'normal' people I have to pretend to be someone else and do things like they do. It's a breath of fresh air to talk to someone who actually means what they say.

I don't feel bonded to other people on the spectrum, though I have had the opportunity to meet and get to know several people on the spectrum and spend a little bit of time in a large group of people on the spectrum and I will say that I feel much more at ease around people "like me".

I don't feel a bond like "dude, we're going to be best friends forever" though. Just a hope that maybe it won't matter if I'm awkward.

I don't know? I have never met anyone on the spectrum before. If I have I did not know.
I don't think I would instantly bond with someone just because they were on the spectrum. If we shared the same interests or similar experiences maybe. I would like to meet another aspie and find out.

I might be more inclined to bond with another aspie, but I wouldn't know until I talk to him or her. Some I like, some I don't. Same as anyone else. I can over look lack of social schools, but some folks put an extra "s" in AS.

Most, not all. I would love to meet more, but the organization of groups in Chicago doesn't seem great.

Define "bond"

I've never met another aspie, so I'm not sure. Curiously though, before I had any idea that I was on the spectrum I met two different people with autism and I felt a strong bond towards both of them without knowing why.

I was like, "Why is some guy with a gun in that picture?" Then I read SyphonFilter's post. Then I was like, "oh."

Yes, good point. Back in my ignorant (of autism, among other things) teens, I thought of interpersonal relations as acting tangentially - the normal stuff - and radially - the real stuff. Not bonds that bind but bonds of brotherhood in shared adversity. Sisterhood, even.

I haven't actually had real conversations with anyone who knows they're autistic yet - I'm surrounded at work with autistics who don't know. Well, that's my best guess. I don't know either.

I met another person with Asperger's when we were both in middle school. We met through a mutual friend. We both tried to talk over one another to the person who had introduced us, trying to get him to talk about either Zelda (my topic) or some racing game (the other Aspie's topic). Then the other Aspie started calling me weird, I called him awkward, etc. We're on good speaking terms now, but it wasn't so easy in the beginning.

I'm generally attracted to weird or unusual people, and I know more than a few aspies. Some I like, some I really, really don't, but I have to deal with them to be included within a larger group. Aspies tend to notice everything and some are very judgemental about everything. If it's not just how they like it, they freak out. I'm pretty sure most aspies are hard to live with.

My most common bond with the aspies I do like is that we were bullied as kids, most still are.