Have you ever met a scary person with AS?

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I know a guy that works at a circle K. He was taking a cigarette break, and exploded on me one time about how upset he was over his boss treating him like crap. Most people would get away, but I let him vent. I reassured him that he's doing great (he was nice to me at the register after all) and gave him some advice how to verbally stand up. He thanked me, and talks to me now everytime I buy something. Not always about personal problems, thank goodness. Today he told me he had AS, and I said I did too. I think he's a dear young man, and I have nothing against him.

The only problem is... well... he kinda frightens me. His intensity, his anger, his willingness to share personal things so quickly, it all kinda freaks me out. I don't think he's dangerous at all, but inwardly he kinda scares me. I told him he can't carry on like that, or he might get in trouble with his supervisor. I think I'm going to avoid that one store.


Have you ever met someone with AS who scared you?

There's a woman who goes to my clubhouse who's the exact same way. She's quick to share a lot of personal things and she has a horrible temper. She even swears at the staff people at the clubhouse. She swears really loud when things don't go her way.

Does the clubhouse lady have AS? Is she just kinda nuts? Or do you have any idea?

I kinda feel bad, because I am guilty of the same thing. Or at least I was at one point in my life. And it wasn't because I wanted to be scary or inappropriate, or that I was an ***hole, but because I was confused and in pain. How can I reject someone who might just be in the same position?

I try not to judge people by their appearance and their level of cursing yada yada yada etc. etc., I prefer to speak with them some. Having dealt with many truly scary homeless people due to a previous job, I'm not easily scared by appearances. It also gave me a lot of experience communicating with and getting on the good side of people with horrible tempers. I found most of them actually to be fairly nice, and at least entertaining to talk to.

Actually I am told that I am the scary one, not because I'm mean or aggressive but for a variety of other reasons:

1) I remember things really well : birthdates, phone numbers, addresses, events, a lot of things with numbers. I can remember a person's birthday even if I haven't seem them in years. I remember things many people forget, which makes them a little suspicious at times....

2) I am open to sharing personal stuff (I don't even really know what that means anymore) and am really not known for modesty. I really don't care if some guy catches a glimpse of me in my bra.

3) I have special fascinations with things, and spend more time then the average person studying them.

4) I also remember names - this freaks people out when I say hi to them, mainly because most people who get freaked out that I know their name are people who were very drunk when I met them.

5) I run into people I know a lot, sometimes they think I'm following them

And lastly I'm an Aspie. I am painfully aware that many times my intentions and meaning get misinterpreted ( we can all relate) and sometimes that must give out a creepy vibe,

But I still like being an Aspie!

That would not scare me because I could easily see myself in the same situation, being so frusterated with how I'm being treated at work that I just can't hold it in any longer. What scares me the most is people who fit societies definition of normal.

no, not at all

I kind of see myself here too. I'm not one to go off on people, but if I'm having a stressful day I look and act none too happy. I have been known to swear out loud in public, have a mean look on my face and storm around a bit. It doesn't often get taken out on people though, least of all strangers. I'll still speak to them in at least a civil tone, and make sure they know I'm just having a bad day and don't mean to direct it at them. That is, if I'm forced to deal with people at all. Can't imagine what the people on the sidewalks think.

Would feeling uncomfortable with a guy with AS getting the wrong idea with just wanting to be friends and nothing else count? He was starting to get pushy and I didn't like it. Don't worry I put a stop to this very quickly and if he didn't get the message my dad was prepared to see it get through and make it stick if you get my drift. Because of this Im wary of guys with AS now.

I think if you feel scared or uncomfortable around someone, whatever the reason is, it's something to pay attention to. Your instincts might be telling you something about that person. A lot of times when I have felt that way around someone, I'd try to ignore it or explain it away, but eventually there would prove to be a valid reason for my feelings. It doesn't really matter if it's something about them, like they might actually be dangerous, or just me feeling weird about the situation. Either way it's a sign that there is something about them I can't deal with, and forcing myself to interact with them will inevitably go wrong in some way.

She told one of the staff workers that she has AS and than she preceded to ask me if I had any delusions one time. I told her that I prefer to call them special interests and obsessions.

I have had a very similar experience, before (sort of forced into bed, despite attempts to express my discomfort). This was before I was familiar with AS, and also did not realize that it tends to express itself differently in males and females.

I think I am that scary person. People know not to f**k with me unless they want a knuckle sandwich.

I'm the only scary person I know with AS. I find very NT people a lot more scary.

I've been told I was scary/freaky/*insert some other adjective like that* before. I was told part of it was the fact I'm so internalized emotionally. Apparently, I'm very monotone, and don't put much emotion into my voice, and am usually like, really calm.

I used to be scary. Then my emotions grew a little older.