Would it be a bad idea to let my NT friend on here?

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29 Jan 2012, 6:21 pm

She's REALLY nice and she didn't freak out at all when I said I have Asperger's or ask anything stereotypical. She's really cool :D I haven't told her about the site, but I've heard NTs can join too I'm just worried people would freak out about her being NT or something.


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29 Jan 2012, 6:26 pm

Just be careful you haven't posted anything here that you wouldn't want her to know about. Also, would you want her to be able to invade your 'private' space?

I vote 'NO'.



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29 Jan 2012, 6:59 pm

I think neurotypical people can help out as allies and potential advocates. I just ask them to stay open-minded that Asperger's-Autism Spectrum is a disability / difference / gift all at once. :D

Tequila does bring up a good point, do you want your friend to read potentially personal stuff you may write here?



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29 Jan 2012, 7:33 pm

I don't think people would freak out, NTs are welcome here. But like the others said, you might prefer to have some privacy here.



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29 Jan 2012, 8:19 pm

I would rather not have anybody in my day to day life know I am here for privacy reasons. Obv, this is a personal choice.



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29 Jan 2012, 8:28 pm

I vote no also.


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29 Jan 2012, 8:39 pm

probably.



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29 Jan 2012, 8:43 pm

You can tell her about the site, yet not let her know which account is yours. :shrug:


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29 Jan 2012, 8:49 pm

There are some NTs here, and I think anyone is welcome to join. That said, she may be uninterested in this site, or it may be weird to tell her about it, unless she is interested in the community, or reading more about it.



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29 Jan 2012, 8:50 pm

It's your call. I can't tell you what to do. I'll support your decision any way.


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29 Jan 2012, 10:42 pm

There is nothing wrong with her using this site, but tmdoes she really have any reason to?


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29 Jan 2012, 10:52 pm

Ganondox wrote:
There is nothing wrong with her using this site, but tmdoes she really have any reason to?

This is what I was trying to get at. You worded it better.



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29 Jan 2012, 11:13 pm

She is welcome to join the site but would she want to? She might want to join in order to learn about AS. Also, how much do you want her to know? I honestly wouldn't want my friends to see what I post on here. It is your call I guess.



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29 Jan 2012, 11:14 pm

It depends...

For me this site is like a sanctuary, where I can be who I truly am, where I know that people will not judge, it's my private place, I wouldn't bring anyone from the outside here. You have to ask yourself a question, do you really want to share this very intimate place with your friend? Because once she's here, there's no turn back. Every single word you say is registered, so be careful.



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30 Jan 2012, 5:25 am

i'm not sure, but under certain circomstances, it might be a good idea.
these forums have several NTs on them, and having them is of mutual benefit; threads can get answers from an NT vieuwpoint, and NTs can get a glimpse of our world.
for that reason, i have considered getting some of my own friends on these forums, i have a few that are quite interested in the world of the aspergers.

however, one thing that i'd recommend very strongly: make sure your friend doesn't know/is able to find out, your username on here, that would create some awkward situations, and you'd feel less free to speak your mind



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30 Jan 2012, 5:41 am

I think having more people who potentially understand where we're coming from is a great thing.