Moondust wrote:
To me all these people look very normal and nice, so what am I missing, guys??
Nothing.
It's like you're seeing a dyslexic guy reading a book, and he seems to be doing just fine; what you don't see is how quickly it will exhaust him, how much he has to re-read a paragraph to get it, and how many, many hours he spent on reading lessons in the past to learn how. In the short term, many Aspies can't be told from NT, because the superficial aspects of communication are things they've generally mastered by adulthood. That doesn't mean they can't have problems with skills other than those basic speaking skills (and they generally do)--they may even be generally less independent than someone whose AS is obvious from the first sentence. There's really a very wide range of possible sets of traits on the autism spectrum.