Aspergers and not worrying.

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Yesterday i went out with my nt friend , everything was fine until he started acting like an idiot while driving on the dirt track i told him not to swerve at that speed but he wouldnt listen.



Next thing i know im upside down and i hit my head on the car roof.i couldnt get out and my friend had to undo my seatbelt. i quickly crawled out of the car and said ''i told you to not do that''.

I didnt worry the whole time i got out like nothing happened my friend was almost crying and panicking but i was just thinking about other things at that point.

Aspergers is an amazing thing,it makes me not worry as much, even though there was a cliff down the bottom of the hill. that old tree practically saved us from dieing.

i only got a sore head and a few scratches.

I wish I had friends who put my life in danger.

I actually had a very similar experience.

Last winter the roads were just terrible, icy and slippery and a total nightmare to drive on. As I was merging onto the highway from the gas station, my car started to swerve a bit. As I recall, I either slammed on the brakes or tried to adjust the car's direction, but this only made the car swerve more until I was caught in an uncontrollable spin and the car crashed into the railing dividing the highway in two. I didn't have my seatbelt on and I hit one of my legs fairly hard, but was otherwise uninjured. Emotionally I felt NOTHING. No nerves, no freaking out, no panic, no trembling, nothing. All I could think about was how pissed off I was about having to tow the car and not being able to drive for a few weeks. The fact that I came so close to the dire possibility of serious injury or death never impacted me on an emotional level, even to this day.

Considering the unbelievably insignificant things I stress over in my life, this makes absolutely no sense.

It's true, we aspies seem to be weirdly cool in a crisis. When I broke my nose a few years ago, I was sitting on the ground in serious pain, bleeding all over the place and my husband was asking me over and over what he should do. I calmly told him to bring me a towel and ice pack, then take the dog out (I figured we'd be at the ER a long time and didn't want to come home to a mess!), then go get the keys/wallet/insurance card so he could drive me to the hospital. It's so funny because I was in a lot of pain but I had no trouble thinking through exactly what needed to happen and he was completely panicked.

Its odd, its not uncommon for me to end up feeling almost too calm when a dangerous situation actually arises......But then I get really anxious in general when there is no real reason to be.

I tend to worry alot and spend half the night awake worrying about things all the time. I too was involved in a car accident and when my friend was in tears, shaking and screaming at the guy who hit her car a commodore SS black which was her pride and joy I just stood there as if nothing ever happened and went and sat with my friends Dad. I ended up going to my friends family get to geather sitting down with a beer and enjoying the evening with only a sore shoulder from the seatbelt. I love 4x4 wheel driving as well.

Wow!! ! Asperger's AND not worrying?????? Worrying is my main symptom of Asperger's, unless my worrying is from a co-morbid anxiety disorder or something?

Sounds like we're a bit alike. In dangerous situations, I'm calm, collected, and ready for action. It's literally saved my life a few times. Including an SUV rollover like that one.

It's emotional situations that make me panic and worry.

At least one book I read on Aspergers mentions how it's not uncommon for aspies to react almost superhumanly fast, without all the fuss.


Actually, in some cases, I got in a bit of trouble with my friends for not making a fuss. My friend choked on some food. Everyone panicked and did nothing useful, so I gave him the heimlich. Patted him on the shoulder a few times, because supposedly that helps people who are upset, then I went back to my own food. Apparently my lack of fuss over my friend almost dying made others in the room think I was heartless, never mind it was I who saved him. Then a few months later, they find out about my diagnosis and realize, "Oh, it's not her fault she doesn't understand feelings." *sigh* Well, at least they weren't mad anymore.

I did a lot of off roading and have been in a few roll overs. The most important thing to remember is not to spill your beer or the drivers beer if your holding it for him. Trust me, he'll want it after

I was on holiday with my family when I was 14 and had been messing about with some army flash-grenades I found exploring the nearby training range (as you do). When the emptied out contents exploded, badly burning my face and legs, I clamly climbed out of the bunker I was in, walked to the holiday camp's reception building and proceeded to stand in line behind a couple complaining about the facilities before the staff noticed that I had no eyebrows or much facial skin. It is difficult to say how much of that was a reaction to the shock and how much the clam-in-a-crisis AS thing though. I only actually realised the seriousness of the situation when the staff saw me and started going mental and running about. No serious lasting damange thankfully.

The lack of a normal response to dangerous situations (like messing around with explosives) seems to be a trait from what I understand. I wonder how you lot are with danger and dangerous situations. My current special interest is urban exploring which largely involves running and climbing around half-collasping derelict factories and hospitals so I dont seem to have really learned my lesson yet

...and here I think that worrying is part of the aspergers deal. Thats all my daughter does.. what if, and all the time. what if this happens, what if that happens.

She is a major worry person.

I think you are on to something. The more chaotic and dangerous a situation becomes the more emotionally detached I become. Logic and reason take over and emotions are absent. We have wartime personalities.