StuckWithin wrote:
I've got a bit of a problem with thinking of Aspergers as a broad or comprehensive disorder, when it clearly brings certain strengths with it. Can a disorder produce anything good? Seems oxymoronic to say so.
The more I think about it the more it seems to me that the disorder is mainly confined to social learning. When older Aspies say "it gets better", I can relate. For example, you may start to "get" social banter, only at a much later age than the average population. In that sense, there is a delay in social learning.
Well, I wouldn't say that Aspergers unto itself is the only variable in not "getting" social banter at a
much later age than average. Another big influencing factor is how much
exposure you get (or are
allowed to get) to social banter. Reading chit-chat/slang sources and urbandictionary.com alone won't quite cut it. If you're perpetually alienated from from social contact, then yes you won't get it until later when it rubs off on you in dribs and drabs instead of an even flow. It's like the analogous expression some of us use, "if you keep a dyslexic away from books, of course he'll never learn how to read". Of course our challenges aren't quite the same, because you don't need a book's permission to "interact" with it. You have to find people enlightened enough to allow you to be part of their circle. I was lucky to have broken this barrier in my early 20s but still I didn't really, really get social banter until my late 20s. It probably would have been later like in my late 30s, who knows, if I hadn't had accepting friends to hang around with in my youth.