Do Female Aspies Have A Dating Advantage?

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Thread after thread, one thing is become apparent and which is that female aspies clearly have a dating advantage. While males are less likely to engage in a relationship with a woman because this requires that not only do we make the first move, but that we (guys) also sufficiently entertain them, display nothing but confidence and show them that we have values that make us a worthwhile catch. Women simply must say yes or no after guy after guy approaches them; they choose who they like and don't like; guys are forced to approach any countless number of women.

What do you guys and ladies think; do female apsies have it easier than men getting into relationships or even just getting dates?

Last edited by mrL on 14 Feb 2013, 6:18 pm, edited 1 time in total.

No.

Next question.

Except that this doesn't happen.

Maybe it's SLIGHTLY higher than an Aspie male's, but still lower than that of the NTs.

One of the many reasons dating a fellow Aspie was the right choice ;D

How can I go on dates when I don't even realize that I am on dates when I've been asked out? How can I respond when I do not even recognize flirting? How do I deal with people who get annoyed at my behavior?

I am rubbish at relationships.

Sometimes generalizations are useful. This is not one of those times.

Hahaha.

I honestly never considered the female Aspie perspective. It's interesting as I have a hard time picking up on cues on when to escalate on dates; when to be direct, when its time to ask her back to my place; or even getting dates, simply what to say and how to maintain the conversation; when to call her; what to say; how to say it; but I never considered the possibility that female apsies don't know what do do in these situations either. I just figured that they just say yes or no. I guess the grass is always greener but I still think female Aspies have the advantage as many still have some social skills and guys do most of the work for them.



I deleted 17 numbers from girls in my phone back in November. Texted some, called others and it went nowhere; others I just didn't know what to do so I didn't bother doing anything at all. You laugh yellowtamarin because you underestimate the number of guys that have either approached you or that you have rejected.

Not Even an Aspie

My wife told her friends that she was engaged about a month before I new that I was going to get married. We never kissed, held hands, or anything. She pulled out a catalog of wedding rings one day. She spoke with confidence that we were going to get married. I was completely surprised by the conversation. It was on April fools day.

My responce was, "You want somebody better than me. Your smart, atractive, and caring."

After a few more minutes of discussion, I said, "Yeah, I am willing to go along with that. Why not?"

A. I think that blah blah blah
B. The facts do not support your idea.
A. The facts are wrong!

How does one underestimate the number of people that have approached them?
Have guys been giving off special telepathic interest signals to me all my life and I've just not noticed?
I'll just point out that I don't HAVE 17 guy's numbers that I could delete, and it's not from rejecting the hordes of people who supposedly approach me.

Lol, only proves my point more. Still I know girls don't completely have it easy but when it comes to the art of selection, they clearly have the upper hand.



There were no facts provided that counter argue my point; when comparing the number of Apsie girls to to number of Aspie guys with girlfriends there is a clear difference by a large margin.

Last edited by mrL on 14 Feb 2013, 8:41 pm, edited 1 time in total.

If they get approached.

I just informed my brother that as a female I am constantly approached by males and all I have to do is to reject them. His only response was a snort.

Ok, well give numbers then; are you saying that no guys approach you? Are you saying that you don't reject the majority of guys that approach you? I at-least try to get a date from most of the girls that I meet but it doesn't work most times; plus rejection hurts my ego each time I am rejected or I don't get a date which is 90% of the time so tell me can you really say that you do not have the advantage?

Um... It's more case by case, rather than anything to do with gender nor the autistic spectrum. There will be people on the spectrum that find is really easy regardless of gender... and also there will be NT's that will find it impossible irregardless of gender.

I've been approached approximately 7 times in the past decade.
Most of those I rejected because they were drunks. Besides that, I think the idea of starting a relationship based on "Her pretty. I approach now," is dumb.
Never being approached is a form of rejection; are you saying that girls who don't get approached don't feel hurt by it? The only reason I'm not is that I've never wanted "a relationship"- I tend to meet guys, get to know them, then (sometimes) fall for them.

7 times in the last decade is hard to believe; I have approached 60+ in the last year and over and it went nowhere. I had a horrible girlfriend for three weeks who made me feel like dirt because I couldn't be assertive (she and one other were the only girls that I became intimate with). Aside from this nothing. You admit to at-least having the social skills to hold a prolonged conversation. Prior to her I dated no one in my 29 years, I have been on three dates in the last year and they all went nowhere with the exception of one girl trying to use me as I couldn't pick up on social cues until it was too late and another I hooked up with but she was like 300 pounds; yeah I fell pretty low on that one. Us guys are the real sufferers.