I have ASD(diagnosed) but I'm very good at reading people?

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I'm not sure if "reading people" is the correct term, I wouldn't say that I'm good at reading people's emotions face to face. I'm not sure if I'm bad at this (I can't really tell tbqh), but I wouldn't say I was notably good at it.

What I mean is that I'm good at "figuring people out." I can work out people's personality very quickly, and the reasons behind their actions etc.

I'm very into a band (TVXQ) and often we the fans will discuss the members (obviously). Whenever I write out my explanations a lot of people say they're amazed, that I should be a psychologist etc.

See.. this doesn't make any sense to me. I always thought that, as a person with ASD, this would not be my forte lol.

Does anyone have this trait? Is my diagnosis possibly incorrect? Is this because they're just band members, not people irl?

I'd like your opinions.

even though you can read emotions, it may not have came naturally to you. i know that when i was younger, i drew a lot, but i couldnt get a hang of emotional expression, so i studied facial expression and eventually caught on.

'reading people' is a skill that entails a lot of different levels, from general 'body language', to facial expression and much more. When one interacts socially, the entire panoply of the senses is engaged and there are subconscious elements as well - like pheremones (smells and other chemicals). Some of this stuff is not really measurable, but it all counts! Being able to pick up on voice tone, and postural tension, but not 'see' the facial meanings might give you an edge that is compensating for the stuff you missed on diagnostic tests...And also, learning social skills is cumulative.

While most NTs are quick in the early years to learn these things, many people on the spectrum do eventually pick them up, and some become quite good at it...even better than NTs in some areas. Perhaps it's the compensation thing, eventual maturity, and the fact that we have to consciously work at it.

So, yes. You can have ASD and become quite skilled at reading people...

I'm confused. You're into a band called TVXQ. I guess you've seen many of their videos but not met them. Are you saying you can work out the personality of the band members just by watching their videos?

OK!
There is an answer to one of my questions.
I feel very normal and friends actually come to me for advice on human matters, but I have got so much critizism for my behavior in social situations, - ever since kindergarten, so I have become very careful with people.
Perhaps I am "good at human stuff" because I have been reading a lot about psychology, some anthropology and am, in general, rather good at putting two and two together.
That was the explanation, I had from my psychologist and I thought: "Him and his "darlings" (theories), - but he is probably right.
A new insight.
Thank you, Willard

have you seen this site? It is list of typical traits of women with autism, compiled by a psychologist with many years of experience in the field.

LINK

These sections in particular may interest you

I'm a diagnosed Aspie but I don't have a problem with reading people either. I can figure out people's personalities quick. I can also read emotions and intentions through body language and voice and face expressions. I got really upset at work about something a few days ago, and when I was at work yesterday, a girl was obviously concerned about my mood from the other day, and I could tell she was trying to hint little things to try and get me to bring it up, because she was obviously too shy to ask outright. The hints weren't really obvious, but could still tell what she was trying to do. Then I told her near the end of our shift, because I didn't want it to look like I had guessed straight away, if you know what I mean. She looked really interested when I told her why, and seemed more happier after, so I knew I was right about her trying to hint to me all day. I could just ''read the signs''. Plus I haven't known her for very long.

I also remember when I hadn't long turned 4, I was walking to a restaurant with my family, but it seemed such a long walk that I was getting tired and wanted to be carried. My mum said no, so I had a tantrum as I was walking along. Then suddenly my aunt came towards me and I could see by her facial expression and body language that she was getting annoyed with me and was about to smack me. I tried to run off but she was too quick for me, and she caught me up and, yes, I got a smack, and she yelled at me that I was being naughty. I stopped after that. But I can still remember that moment now, and that was the first time I had seen my aunt do that, and felt pretty surprised. And there are other memories I have of being able to read emotions and other signs through body language as a young child.

How I still got diagnosed with AS? I wouldn't know.

I learned to "read people" through trial and error, taking note of common responses to similar things, asking and studying (sitting in on a friend's class, online articles, videos and eventually taking my own psych/social science classes).

I am not great at it; I doubt I ever will master it. When I notice an expression I can't place I get scared and automatically mark it as negative.

I still miss some intentions(from what someone says) until I am alone and reflect back then it "clicks".

You do not have to present every trait to be diagnosed. That is one reason it is called a spectrum.

I always thought it was odd that I could read people too, but recently I read the book A field Guide to Earthlings, and now I understand much better what I think is going on. It explains a lot of the ways that NTs use conversation to establish rank, make symbolic connections about things, establish alliances, among other things. They use "small talk" and conversations to do this, and even though I don't pick up on all of that, i can see their actual intentions, and read their personality. The book suggests that we may be able to read them because of not picking up on all of their non verbal clues. It's a very good book, and to whoever suggested it on here Thank you! I would also suggest it to others now, if like me you don't understand how NTs can just babble on about seemingly nothing, it really helps explain it.

I hate it when I read a site about Asperger's Syndrome, and going through each trait and going, ''that's not me, nor that, I don't get like that, I never feel like that, I cannot relate to that, no I wasn't like that as a child....'' then I feel quite happy and start hoping that maybe I don't have Asperger's but was misdiagnosed and I really have something else. Then I come on to a thread like this and a list of Asperger's traits for girls gets shown and I'm like, ''oh....I have that, and that, and that, I get like that all the time....oh my God this list is exactly me, 19 out of 20 traits listed here are the traits I have...''

Then I get depressed.