Self-Disclosing: Do you tell others about autism?

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I heard my pastor speak (quite some time ago) about how intimacy builds friendships, trust, etc. And secrets or withholding yourself from others builds weak friendships...

Not anymore. I used to but it doesn't seem to work out well.

Rarely, and only if there's a reason to.

No.

I don't give people weapons to use against me, and both mental health and Asperger's are surrounded by stereotypes and stigma. I tend not to disclose.

Maintaining some privacy and being selective about what you disclose and when is the smartest option. There are many other things to talk about.

On occasion, when I feel it serves some purpose.

Rarely. People don't believe me when I tell them, so I don't tell them anymore.

I don't tell people very often. I just talk about it casually, as if it is something we've already established.

Some people I tell and others I don't. There are some people I don't feel need to know/it's none of their business. Other people I meet I feel like they'll judge me -or it'll be a long conversation if I tell them.
There are others are safe or I spend a lot of time with and so they'll probably find out sooner or later.

I tell people whom I think ought to know, or people I feel close enough to tell. That said, I have no shame about it. My parents tell just about everybody they know about my recent diagnosis, and it doesn't bother me.

Self does not need to, as others ask my mother what I have.

I don't tell just anyone especially since I plan to do my diagnosis in this year yet, actually only my closest family members know, which are my mother, father and brother (as they have to deal with me every day).

There is no point telling someone something they do not understand. It makes problems. My own mother doesn't even consider wanting to believe. My whole life she tells me I don't need to see anyone, and it's all in my head. It is something she can explain away. People don't believe me when I tell them anyways. If your shoes are untied, your pants on bacwards with a pocket hanging out your zipper, plad shirt, glasses 3 feet thick, and you talk with a studder, and a whisp, then these NT's will believe you have autism or asp burgers. From dominoes pizza. Other than that, just forget about it. Your preacher is wrong. Telling others helped me loose my last 2 jobs. I say something to my friends in perfect confidence, and they just make fun of me, and tell me I'm stupid because I'm wrong. Just like my mother.

Generally I tell people if it comes up.
Part of my tendecy to overshare constantly.
It comes up relatively often.
Although that's not deliberate on my part, it's just that it affects a lot of aspects of my life & people make comments or as questions and so I try to explain

Not usually, unless that other person is an aspie or they know someone else on the spectrum.

No. From my experience, once you tell someone about your diagnosis, they stop seeing you for who you are and judge you based on stereotypes of the condition, and patronise you.