Does anyone else find that they don't miss people?

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I'm wondering if this may be an aspie thing. I don't seem to miss people after about a week of not seeing them. I had a group of friends that I used to hang out with all the time when I lived at the house where everyone came to on the weekends. Once I moved out, however, I rarely went to their house. I've only stopped by a handful of times in the past two years or so. I still consider them my friends, but I don't really miss hanging out with them. It's like I seem to easily grow apart from people unless I'm around them a lot.

It's the same with family members who've died. Both of my grandmothers are dead, and I don't miss them even though I knew them throughout my whole childhood. I sometimes feel like this makes me a bad person.

I have many reasons to miss people but I don't. I do however miss my cat that died when I was 18.

Generally I don't tend to miss people. There are maybe two or three people that I have missed very much. Every now and then I form a very strong childlike bond with someone and if that person goes away I will miss him or her. That has only happened a few times though. I know that my oldest brother is like that for me and if he travels I really miss him. But other people I don't really miss at all. It's like I was never really bonded to them. One of my uncles I am really bonded to even though I did not spend much actual time with him but I really miss him. But I can count on one hand the people that I miss like that. I always thought it was strange that I did not really miss people in general. I remember when I was seven one of our close family friends came over after not having seen us for a long time and asked me if I missed her and I said "no". She told me that was not nice. But I do miss the animals in my life who have passed. Maybe NT's just say that they miss people to be nice. I wonder if they really do miss them.

It's very rare that I actually "miss" people. My wife is really upset that I don't "miss" her whenever she back home to her country. I've had lovers wonder whether there is something "missing" in me. Possibly, I could miss human contact more than I miss actual people.

I find it odd in myself--and wonder if there's a severe deficiency within myself--because I don't generally "miss" people whatsoever.
By the same token, I usually don't mind the presence of people, unless they are aggravating me in some way.

It's possible that I take Humanity for granted; plus, I don't mind entertaining myself. Internet forums sometimes are the only human contact I desire.

I'm not cold to people, however; in fact, there are times when I'm overly obsequious (e.g., I like opening doors for ladies).

I wonder if it's a Spectrum thing.

Could be

I don't really miss people either unless they are gone for a long long time such as my husband or child. I seem to only miss someone when I need them. I don't miss my grandparents at all.

I watched this documentary-type thing on youtube. There was an autistic couple, and when the interviewer asked if they missed one another when apart, they said no. One of them said that missing people sort of requires some imagination, like thinking about what it would be like if someone were there. And she said that they didn't have that sort of imagination, so they weren't able to miss each other. It was interesting.

I am capable of "missing" my mother, father, and best friend.

That's about it. Beyond that, it's "out of sight, out of mind." I also don't understand "homesickness."

About the only things I truly "miss" are my routines when they get disrupted.

i don't/won't miss people. something i've come to realize. if my best friend moved away, i simply would not miss him. i just don't have that feeling. kinda bothers me, but just part autism i guess

Yeah I am the same way. I don't really miss people cause I just do my own thing. The next time I see them I still act like we are friends cause nothing has changed in my mind but they act like I don't want to be friends or something cause I never tried to contact them.

I don't miss people just because I am not with them.
But I miss dead people.

I have an excellent imagination but there are tons of people that I don't miss. Maybe there are different kinds of imagination. What's interesting though is that the very few people that I do miss, when I miss them I miss them to the point of extreme depression. I think it's more than just missing them. I think it's a lot more like separation anxiety like a little child gets.

I miss people, but less than most others do