Does anyone else have this? Missing no one when you're away

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Hi guys, something is bothering me....
When I'm away from my kids and family, for work, study or whatever, I don't get homesick or miss them very much. Is this because of my autism or is there something really wrong with me??
This has been on my mind since the first time I went on a vacation without my kids. We went on our honeymoon and were away for 12 days. Now I am 3 days away for work, and mind more to leave my comfortable hotel and my colleages, then I'm glad to go home. How is this possible? Am I a terrible mother or is this normal for autistic people?

Not sure, to be honest I think it's normal and the 'missing' is overplayed. I don't really miss my family (mum/dad/sister etc) when I'm away from them. I only really miss one person (and generally it's because I am infatuated with them).

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I was referring to my husband and my children......

I don't miss my wife when she's away.

Are you happy when your husband and children come back? That's the most important thing.

Actually, not to miss somebody might even be a healthy response.

At least you take it for granted (in a good way) that your family will be intact in spirit, even if you all are not physically present together.

Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't. It all depends. I do not think that not missing them makes you a bad person or anything.

Thank you thank you thank you! I really thought that I was terrible!
My husband misses me alot you know, and that gets me thinking...
thanx!

As long as you're happy when hubby and the kids are around.

Your hubby probably misses your "healing qualities."

When I go away somewhere, I'm involved with that place and the people there, so I don't really miss my family...However, if I'm the one left at home (my family member goes away), I do miss their presence. I think for me it's that the new environment tends to 'take over' my attention. A variation on the out of sight, out of mind theme?

The real key to knowing if the situation is healthy is how you feel about it when you go home, or your partner/family member returns.

I don?t think it?s specifically autism. You miss people or don?t based upon their level of integration into your daily routines and life and your skill at adaptation to different routines will lessen or decrease this emotion. In terms of being a mother it?s stereotypically bad but not factually bad as you may simply have different reasons for staying such as responsibility rather than integration.

I think in general, people with AS tend to miss others less than NTs.

The longer I spend on these forums the more blatant it becomes that I have been misdiagnosed.

I tend to not miss people too. If I KNOW I won't see someone for a long time, I don't miss them. I do sometimes miss people a great deal when I'm expecting to see them, but stuff happens, and I can't see them.

That's wonderful. Much better to not be autistic. It's horrible.