how many of you guys are under an adult guardianship?

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just wondering it seems like all the transition guides for asd recommended it
im not under one

I'm sort of under an unofficial one. I'm living with a friend's family, and I pay small monthly rent to stay in one of their guest bedrooms. It's just like living with my parents again; they take care of the household bills and most of the cooking, as well as my transportation, and all I really have to do is wash my laundry, clean my own room, and bring in the rent money every so often. My friend's mother is a very kind person, and I sort of regard her as being like a surrogate mother.

It's a living situation I am very thankful for. I don't think I would be able to function if I had to do everything on my own.

I am my own guardian. I sometimes wish to have someone to help me with certain things.

No, and I'd just like to see someone TRY doing that to me.
(Of course I don't have issues with people having power over me, don't be silly.)

am under a power of attorney,but am LFA not HFA.

I live with my parents. No job, no car, no bills to pay - just weekend school that my parents or grandpa usually gives me a ride to and from since I struggle from public transport. So yeah... it looks like I am under unofficial guardianship even though I am an adult myself.
I wonder if "High functioning" really fits me in this stage. I can't imagine how I could deal with living all alone. The longest time was 2 weeks when I was doing a scholarship job and my parents went to vacation so I had to ride a car to get to the job(again - I hate public transportation), take care of the house, do shopping, laundry etc. all by myself. I was doing fine but it was tiring and stressing. But well. At least the house was clean as never before. I cleaned it once and it stayed clean because there was noone do make it dirty (the only room I make dirty is my own room, I visit other rooms only occasionally and I don't cook so the kitchen stayed clean too). And I saved lots of money. I was living on bread witch cheese and cheap microwave dumplings ("ready after warming up"), drinking water. I spent 50% less money on food than I did on car fuel and I spent only 1/3 of all the money my parents gave me for the whole homestay. They got angry about it when they got back, assuming I ate nothing. But I was happy with the food I got, Eating the same thing everyday is what I like and the dumplings are my favorite food.

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I have friends and family who are close but really I am all alone, I really need a handler to tame me, stop me making the same mistakes in my tragic and chaotic life.

that isnt what not being high functioning means.
low functioning means have been diagnosed with a intelectual disability; which means have been profesionaly assessed in inteligence/mental capacity and a functional assessment, being on the low functioning spectrum has a completely different outlook and a very different presentation of autism.

those issues have mentioned sound more related to anxiety and executive dysfunction,typical sht to deal with for even so called 'mild aspies' but everyone has different support,levels of tolerance and coping skills.

papa does

I am under the guardianship of the Wolfman!

No and if I was I'd probably want to off myself much more often....as wouldn't that essentially mean being treated like a child and having someone else in charge of all my personal descions like what activities I can do, who I can see and what not does not sound appealing at all. Don't get me wrong I have lots of functioning difficulties, can't hold a job and have ended up in the psych ward voluntarily twice because I was thinking of suicide so I do need help and support with things(not sure I really get an effective amount of that) but not to the extent of essentially being treated like a child by some 'guardian' who acts like a parent and controls my life.

But maybe that is not how it would be with a guardianship, who knows....either way I certainly don't want that.

Yes. My father is in the Military. Because of this, I have to stick close to my parents until he retires. Otherwise, I would be taking a leap that is too big; meaning that if I leave home now, eventually I would be in a different city, or perhaps even a different country then they are. This would be too far away too soon.

I'm 18 and I still live with my parents. When I move out I actually want to live on my own, not have a "second set of parents" like some people have.

A part of what makes my situation different than a literal "guardianship" is that I'm still in control of my own life for the most part, though the fact that I don't have a drivers license is a bit limiting. Still, living with my friend's family is just like living with my parents again, though I don't think most people had the same amount of freedom I did when they lived with their parents. My parents pretty well stayed out of my way once I reached my late preteens, but I only realized how much of a problem this was for me later on when I discovered that I had no real direction in my life.

i still live with my parents.
because i'm only 16.

I don't have a drivers license and live at my moms house, but as far as she is concerned I am an adult living here...sometimes I feel like she checks up a bit too often when I go out, but whatever that's not really a big deal. Can't say I have a ton of direction in life, right now I'm just on SSI continuing with therapy and maybe they'll have me try yet another anti-depressant when I tell the psychiatrist the most recent didn't work and aside from that try to occupy my time so I don't sit around stuck with my own thoughts too much. They thought of getting me a payee which would have been either my mom or some state appointed person to manage my SSI money but it was determined I could handle it....which I prefer since that sort of thing would just cause stress more so than the possibility I might miscalculate and end up with less money to work with than I thought....but as soon as I get things cleared up to get the proper amount(supposed to be 720 a month or something) I'll be paying rent so that will be first thing then whats left is for nessesisties/comfort/activities.