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billiscool
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20 Jun 2014, 12:15 am

I don't know how,or why but I can pass as ''NT''(whatever that mean)
People can't tell Im different.Like the empire new clothes.
Even People who teaches autism children,can't tell I have
ASD and LD.Somehow I pass as ''normal''even though Im
cleary not normal.I guess that the advantage of living in Oregon.



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20 Jun 2014, 12:43 am

lol

All I can think of right now is "Keep Portland weird."

No wonder people can't tell... :P


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20 Jun 2014, 12:46 am

I can somewhat relate to what you're saying here. As I've grown a bit older, I've learned the appropriate social skills that can make me pass for normal at first sight. While people who have longer conversations/dealings with me, will notice that I am somewhat 'off', they won't necessarily identify these traits as autistic. When I mention that I was diagnosed with autism in childhood, they're ususally surprised. While this is often because they only have a cursory knowledge on autism -if any-, and assume the more severe traits they've seen in documentaries or read about in newspapers or magazines, it sometimes also happens with people who do have an autistic relative or friend. And sometimes even with other people who are somewhere on the spectrum.

In my own case, I consider it a compliment when people think that I'm normal. It's a testament to what I've accomplished ever since growing up, and my developments in the field of social interactions.


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20 Jun 2014, 2:45 am

Oregon must be some place! 8O



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20 Jun 2014, 3:37 am

Most people don't even realize I'm an aspie unless I tell them. ;) It may have been a bit more obvious when I was a kid, but even back then usually the only people who knew were members of my family, and school officials.



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20 Jun 2014, 4:21 am

it tends to be high functioning autistics that dont get recognised as autistic because their IQ is over seventy [ http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/High-functioning_autism ],only those of us with LFA [IQ under seventy] tend to get recognised as our mental capacity impacts on how our autism appears;highly rigid thinking,constant obvious stimming, severe communication impairment [not mutism], difficulty with basic concepts, total disconnect and disinterest when with other people,total lack of social rules and severe challenging behaviors is visualy obvious and is what society viewed as defining autism as a whole until not that long ago.

learning disability from an american view means a specific impairment that mainly ends up affecting education most of all so it isnt visible like a impairment that affects global functioning, there is no visible sign to say someone has dyslexia, dyscalculia, dysgraphia etc.

be glad are not 'visible'-society is cruel and jumps on anything that sticks out, we are treated like a freak show for peoples own entertainment-abused by total strangers,we recieve prejudice,isolation and discrimination straight off based on our visibly obvious autism.


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20 Jun 2014, 11:24 am

People get / know that I'm different but few realize that I'm autistic until I explain it to them.

I think it has to do with a general lack of knowledge as to what autism is about more than anything else. I think most people when they hear the term autistic they think "Rain Man".


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20 Jun 2014, 12:18 pm

I find that hard to believe since your grammar is incorrect - and by the specific way that its incorrect, you actually sound more disabled then an autistic human. Autistic people sometimes use odd language but they usually know where to put an -s on a word. You probably just think they don't notice. And, they can notice without knowing you're autistic. They may thinking, "I wonder what disability this human has," and then when you tell them you are autistic they say they didn't know because they didn't know it was that specific disability, or they might say, "Oh but you act normal," because they don't know what autism is and think that all autistic people are severely ret*d.

Another possibility is that your friends or the people where you live really CAN'T tell that you're not typical, because all of the people you to to are disabled. That's how it is for my sister (who is not ASD), who thinks she is normal because her friends say she is, yet every single one was in special ed because they are also disabled. Everyone else can tell within 5 minutes of meeting her. And my sister is so "different" that even my highly-for-an-independant-human autistic boyfriend said, "What's wrong with her?" right after meeting her. And no it is not a mental problem that she has it is some kind of unknown or unique-to-her disability.



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20 Jun 2014, 1:04 pm

People will just think I'm shy or uninterested. Yeah that is passing off as normal. Other characteristics can pass off as normal too. But if someone has lot of knowledge about ASDs they may be able to tell. If anyone thinks you're slow or have a intellectual disability or thought you did drugs or think you have something else, no that isn't passing off as normal. I have been seen as slow or being mildly ret*d. It honestly doesn't bother me anymore if anyone thinks that.


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In my own case, I consider it a compliment when people think that I'm normal.



Same here. It means they are open minded and don't judge you and don't have a narrow view on what is normal and they will respect you. It's only bad if they don't understand you and refuse to listen and get mad at things you do you don't mean to do.


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20 Jun 2014, 1:18 pm

I have absolutely no idea what people really think of me, and this is confusing me a great deal even though I now have been officially diagnosed, literally got disability handed to me right away by my social worker without even asking for it, and have a (very) accommodated job. To me I only know what it's like to be me, so just being me in itself has always just felt "normal" because it's impossible for me to know how it would be to have someone else's "normal" mind. My parents seem to always have been in total confusion or denial about me because they never said to me that there was something (developmentally) wrong with me, even though superficially in retrospect it must always have seemed very obvious I had some kind of problem because judging by how good things have become after my diagnosis, my family seems to have been utterly miserable and depressed just because of me for many years. This is the downside of living in a very polite and socially correct country, nobody never say anything to you, they just ignore you or perhaps think that you somehow are able to read from them what they think of you. I'm still confused as of me writing this.



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20 Jun 2014, 1:20 pm

I don't pass for normal.
People usually patronize me or leave me alone.
I never tried to pass for normal or mimic other people's behavior because I didn't have enough awareness of other people or myself in a social context.
I have always been withdrawn into my own world and didn't understand the importance of social interaction or pay attention to other people or make eye contact.
I have constant obvious stimming/motor stereotypies that seem to have no connection to my emotional state.
I have cognitive and social communication impairments but I have above normal IQ.



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20 Jun 2014, 1:36 pm

Rayvn wrote:
I find that hard to believe since your grammar is incorrect - and by the specific way that its incorrect, you actually sound more disabled then an autistic human. Autistic people sometimes use odd language but they usually know where to put an -s on a word. You probably just think they don't notice. And, they can notice without knowing you're autistic. They may thinking, "I wonder what disability this human has," and then when you tell them you are autistic they say they didn't know because they didn't know it was that specific disability, or they might say, "Oh but you act normal," because they don't know what autism is and think that all autistic people are severely ret*d.

Another possibility is that your friends or the people where you live really CAN'T tell that you're not typical, because all of the people you to to are disabled. That's how it is for my sister (who is not ASD), who thinks she is normal because her friends say she is, yet every single one was in special ed because they are also disabled. Everyone else can tell within 5 minutes of meeting her. And my sister is so "different" that even my highly-for-an-independant-human autistic boyfriend said, "What's wrong with her?" right after meeting her. And no it is not a mental problem that she has it is some kind of unknown or unique-to-her disability.

This post doesn't make much sense.


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20 Jun 2014, 2:05 pm

billiscool wrote:
I don't know how,or why but I can pass as ''NT''(whatever that mean)
People can't tell Im different.Like the empire new clothes.
Even People who teaches autism children,can't tell I have
ASD and LD.Somehow I pass as ''normal''even though Im
cleary not normal.I guess that the advantage of living in Oregon.

billiscool - if nobody can detect the fact that you are different, then maybe no difference exists? In what way are you 'clearly' not normal?



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20 Jun 2014, 2:33 pm

Rayvn wrote:
I find that hard to believe since your grammar is incorrect - and by the specific way that its incorrect, you actually sound more disabled then an autistic human. Autistic people sometimes use odd language but they usually know where to put an -s on a word. You probably just think they don't notice. And, they can notice without knowing you're autistic. They may thinking, "I wonder what disability this human has," and then when you tell them you are autistic they say they didn't know because they didn't know it was that specific disability, or they might say, "Oh but you act normal," because they don't know what autism is and think that all autistic people are severely ret*d.

Another possibility is that your friends or the people where you live really CAN'T tell that you're not typical, because all of the people you to to are disabled. That's how it is for my sister (who is not ASD), who thinks she is normal because her friends say she is, yet every single one was in special ed because they are also disabled. Everyone else can tell within 5 minutes of meeting her. And my sister is so "different" that even my highly-for-an-independant-human autistic boyfriend said, "What's wrong with her?" right after meeting her. And no it is not a mental problem that she has it is some kind of unknown or unique-to-her disability.


I know a few people who type like he does, and I think it's because for a lot of people it's just quicker and easier to type that way than it is to be all formal and use proper punctuation, grammar, etc. It may have something to do with dyslexia, I'm not really sure, though I have known a few dyslexics. A lot of non-dyslexic people do type that way as well.

The opposite is kind of true for me; when I was younger I was highly fixated on spelling and punctuation, and I became known as a bit of a "grammar nazi". Eventually, my "grammar nazi" tendencies cooled down a bit, but I still type somewhat formally.



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20 Jun 2014, 4:08 pm

I do pass for NT.

People generally think that I'm just in a world of my own.

I just tell them I had a bad trip back in the day and I never really got back to normal, it's easier to explain.


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20 Jun 2014, 6:07 pm

Are you sure people can't tell? Maybe they can tell, but are too polite to show it openly. I've had people who I always assumed thought I was normal respond to me disclosing my diagnosis by admitting they always kind of knew I was odd.