I really like kids and others don't seem to

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Now, I know how that sounded, so before I continue; no, I don't like kids in THAT way....for goodness' sake. I just like little kids cuz....well, they're a lot of fun. They're cute, they're silly, they're into the same things I tend to be into (such as animated movies, especially How to Train Your Dragon, My Little Pony and the Cars and Planes movies). I love it when little kids take an interest in me and want to play with me (with their parents nearby and okay with it, of course). I actually think it does me good since my social anxiety prevents me from feeling safe interacting with folks my own age and other adults, so I get good quality social opportunities with young kids...and I enjoy it, too! Kids seem to enjoy it as well....it must not be very often that a 20-something adult is genuinely interested in what they're doing and wants to join them in their world.

The thing is, I don't know a lot of people my age (22 or thereabouts) who like kids that much. My roommate last year didn't like little kids, and this morning, my current roommate revealed that she doesn't like them that much either. And that's fine....not being overly fond of little kids doesn't make someone a bad person; it's just that I feel weird that I enjoy the company of little kids so much when it seems like not that many other people my age do.

In that vein, I wonder why I enjoy the company of little kids so much....could it be because I have a somewhat childlike and playful personality myself?

Thoughts, anyone?

I love kids too, but it differs from person to person. We cannot all like the same things. In general, I think people tend to like kids in moderation: a little interaction with a kid is cute but too much can get on one's nerves. I love it when they are curious and ask a million questions about the world for you to answer, or when they ask for a story and you tell one and make them laugh. If they would, say, jump on a bed you just made or make a mess in a recently cleaned area of the house one might like it a lot less. Some people have higher levels of tolerance with these things. This is why some people make better parents, or better pet owners, then others. We're all unique after all.

As for your childish interests I cannot relate. For a grown man or woman to be in Disney movies is not TOO weird as a lot of them are filled with little innuendo and jokes only the parents would get, to make watching a movie together truly a 'family affair'. Some Disney films can be very cute. Same with certain animations and cartoons. I do not personally dislike MLP because I am not a little girl but I get the appeal for kids. But again: like what you like and don't be ashamed. And if hanging out with kids is something you enjoy, by all means enjoy it. Just beware of those who might think it weird, because there is a lot of weird people out there and parents are watchful of those. And rightfully so. It's safest to only chill with the children of relatives or good friends because they would know you and not make any unfortunate assumptions.

I relate more to little kids or anyone under sixteen more than I do with adults. I think it's because in my mind, I'm still very much like a child myself. I struggle with keeping a job or going to college. I also struggle with most daily living skills as well (cleaning, cooking). I do a lot of things that aren't really age appropriate for some that's 25 going on 26. I still sleep with my plushies, have to have some sort of light on (usually just the TV and my laptop on), I also enjoy a lot of baby shows too (Chuggington, Doc McStuffins, Sofia the First), and I even carry around my plushies wherever I go.

I have a lot of my childish traits still intact because of having intellectual and learning delays. I've never fully grown into an adult because I think it's due to change as well as fear too. I'm more comfortable around children and used to even have cousins who were twice as young as me (They are all grown up now though). I used to love playing pretend games with them, and I was fourteen at the time this occured too. As a child, I missed out on a lot of my normal childhood. I was focused on making messes instead of playing or collecting rocks. I think that's part of the reason I became the opposite of myself as I got older.

I absolutely despise children even if they are related to me. Not that I like adults much either; I would much rather enjoy interfacing with my computer screen or people over the internet. I don't ever want to have children and I hate it when other people have children. There's enough useless people in the world without crowding it up even more.

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You sound like a lovely person to be around. Charming. Probably best to just stay with that computer screen, it's the best company you'll ever have.

Yes, I've already resigned myself to this line of thinking. I never insulted you, and I'm not sure why you feel the need to insult me for simply stating my opinion. Not that I don't receive the same treatment from my fellow human beings is reality anyway.

Last edited by MehruneMath on 13 Sep 2014, 3:43 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Let's hope for your sake by the time you are elderly and immobile, you've taught your computer to feed you and wash you, or you'll be screwed mate.

That poster is 21 give him a break.
I will admit his lack of any kind of tact but you have to admire the honesty.

Let's be honest kids these days are self entitled little monsters.

Edit are you are 22.

A nicer way to put things would have been spoiled little brats drive him up the wall.

I'm 22, lol.



It's a good thing you try to find the positive things even in the most negative of people. A very admirable quality my friend.



Only the ones that weren't raised right. A child's a product of the way it is raised. Spoil a kid and he'll be a little s**t. Raise him right and he'll behave and there's no reason to dislike all kids just because a few of them are annoying. That's like hating all cats because one scratched your hand as a kid, or all dogs because one barked at you.

In twenty years machines will be capable of doing anything humans can do currently. Also I doubt I will be "screwed" as you say. I have plenty of means in the realm of generating income.

My distaste for human youth has absolutely no barring on my current age. Why you presume this to be a fact is beyond my understanding.

Could you please elaborate?

I wouldn't count on. People are always way too optimistic about what machines can and cannot do, let alone their affordability which I think will be limited; they'll only be available for those who have quite a lot of money. It's cold and impersonal, too. Some people like it that way, cold and impersonal. Some people genuinely don't feel the need for any social interaction, friendship, a family, love... and that's fine. But people change, attitudes change, and being pessimistic and negative is no way to live a life.

There's a really awesome world away from our keyboards, beyond our screens. There's a sun to feel on our skins, and tons of things to put smiles on our faces. It's something different, I know. Scary at times. But well worth giving a try.

Maybe that is me being nieve but I choose to give that poster the benefit of the doubt by believing his intent was not nearly as nasty as his post came across.

I'd bet that many people dislike (younger) children for reasons similar to the reasons for their dislike of autistics: children tend to be honest, guileless, blunt, intellectually curious, lack knowledge of things that adults consider to be obvious, and disinterested in the class of "mature" behavior that includes gossiping, backstabbing, aimless wandering about malls/parties/bars, preening, and the establishment/maintenance of social hierarchies.

Oh.

Goodness.

You clearly don't have kids yet.

Mehrune Math, you say you didn't insult anyone, but I just wanted to offer the feedback that when you strongly state your opinion as you did, and then follow it by saying there are enough useless people in the world, you are--in effect--insulting anyone who has made the decision to have kids. My kids are not useless, and I find anyone hating the fact that I had them insulting because I didn't have an easy time getting pregnant, and my pregnancies were complicated as well.

It's OK to prefer to minimize your direct human contact and it is OK to have no plans to have kids. Those decisions are personal decisions that are no one else's business. But if you choose to use words like "hate" and "useless," be prepared for people to call you on it.

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I am 40 as people get older our views tend to get softer.