Anyone else have a problem with repeating themselves?

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When I am trying to communicate with others, I tend to repeat myself -- but not usually the exact same phrase. If I feel like I may not have expressed something adequately or am having trouble expressing what is supposed to be important, whatever I am saying comes out through several iterations. Apparently, doing so makes people think that I am talking down to them when I am really just trying to make sure I have communicated my point properly. I wish I just knew how to say things the right way the first time. Maybe I care too much about getting my exact point across -- it seems like most people don't care if others really understand them. I do it the most when people aren't clear about whether they've heard and understood me -- I guess I could be missing some cue that others pick up on that tells them whether their point was received.

How do you get past this? I can't figure it out. In the instances when I haven't repeated myself, I've often been misheard or not heard at all.

I do this all the time, and so does my mom. I've been trying not to, but it's really hard to break such a habit. D:

I'm not sure I know how not to since I don't even notice myself doing it until someone accuses me of it after the fact...

I repeat myself over and over, to others and to myself. I don't know why, I think it's because of years of people not listening before (not my parents) made me think that they weren't listening to me.

When I do it with my parents, I always have to ask if they heard me before I repeat myself. If they did, then I usually don't say it again.

It seems my brain has two settings -- so quiet that people complain about how quiet I am, and overly verbose to an annoying degree, repeating myself many times over -- with no in between.

This is me to a tee, I repeat myself multiple times to explain things and I am cut off almost every time by people saying I said that before. It caused friction between me and my mother.And me and my boss.
Although work is a lot better for it now they are used to some of my idiosyncrasies

I cannot remember not being told that I repeat myself. Of course even in the DSM V - repetitious behavior is a fundamental characteristic of ASD behavior.

Yep, am often accused of doing this. I believe it is just to make sure the people I'm speaking with understand what I'm saying since many times they seem not to be paying attention....or at least the amount of attention I think they should have.

I do too.

For some reason I have to repeat the 'punch line' twice, of which the second time its not funny.

I have been trying to stop it.

I think it comes from 'scripting', the concept of you go over the what you want to say. You say it, and you run out of things to say, so since you are 'going from a script', you (or I) repeat what you said before. This is only an opinion, a guess, not a proven fact.

Some very interesting thoughts here. All of what you guys have said makes total sense to me. I wish I could get a job like yours, Nyrianstark. I've lost several jobs because of my idiosyncrasies despite being otherwise great at the job itself and doing more than was expected of me. I haven't actually worked since I learned about Asperger's/ASD, though, so I never had any way to explain to people why I act like I do. I would like to try working again pretty soon since I finally found a successful treatment for my previously disabling chronic pain, but I'm not sure when and how to broach the subject of my Asperger's behaviors, especially since there are no psychiatrists in the area who can diagnosed me officially.

Yes I do repeat myself.

I repeat myself all the time.

At work, I often end up explaining the same thing in three different ways to make sure they got it.