Jealousy (?)

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Hello everybody!

Every once in a while (2 times a week) we study physics in school which is my strong interest. Everytime someone works with my interest my egocentricism kicks in and it makes me feel mentally ill. It pretty much gives me a melt down and I can not do anything about it other than somehow express my feelings openly.

How am I supposed to approach this problem? It's quite frustrating for me to pretend as if physics is my gem than everyone is looking after. I'm not sure if jealousy is the correct term for it, probably more like "it's my lawn".

Any suggestions? Is it normal to get this feeling to an extreme degree?

"Is it normal?" I very much doubt it as from what I can tell, most people love finding people who share their interests.

"How to fix?" Yeah, I've no clue. Suck it up, I guess, because that's life.

I used to become enraged when I was much younger (elementary age) when I was put in similar situations with friends. I still have some issues with possessiveness when it comes to interests and things, just not to that degree. I'm not sure why.

That happens to me so then I keep working so hard to reach the same point that person is in or a point higher lol.

I think you're probably a lot younger, in middle or high school, so the competitiveness is there where you want to know the most in your favorite subject and if you don't you feel inadequate, right? It's just a young person thing... I mean, I think once you're older you'll realize that there are so many people who are interested in this subject. You can't always be the best, but you can expand your knowledge on your own time. The people at your school don't really matter.

What to need to do is learn to channel that energy for a better competitive drive. It's sounds like to me that being the the best in physics is important to you, and when you come short, you get frustrated and angry because you feel inadequate. Instead if getting frustrated and angry, redirect that energy to motivate yourself into working harder at becoming better at your interest. in other words, BE COMPETITIVE!!

I guess it would have to depend on what the subject is, but as someone who is more than a bit of a gear head I enjoy gear head conversation. I can talk about cars and engines (primarily imports, i.e. old Volkswagens, Toyotas, etc.) all day long with the right people. But when I find someone who is more knowledgeable on a particular point, then I want to learn something from them.

The only person I ever try to compete with is myself. I don't care for competition with others primarily because I will either perform abysmally by comparison (such as anything involving physical coordination or athletics) or I will outperform them without really trying to in (certain) other endeavors.

I think it's better - for my own personal sanity at least- to develop the talents I have the best I can, and acknowledge that I'm really good at some things, and that I really have to struggle with others.

I love finding people who share my interests!

The first time it happened, though, I was a bit confused because my usual 'script' for talking about my interests assumed others knew nothing about it. But I was excited too, and once I got to university I got used to it pretty quick. (If you're planning to get a degree in a special interest area, expect to encounter many people who are passionately interested in and very knowledgeable about that area.)

Perhaps your interest in physics is a means to retain a unique(ish) component of identity that others do not have, being that it is a relatively uncommon interest.

Does that make any sense or am I hitting a foul ball here?

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If someone has the same interest as mine, I would bug them to death with questions (mostly if they are ahead of me).

*I* don't go competitive over them... But if they refuse to answer my questions or help me, then I'll let them be with whatever they have and ignore them.

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