Oddly enough I encountered this bizarre reality arguing with an NT family member. She brought up all her issues, I repeatedly offered solutions or alternative points of view that fixed her problems or offered a better slant on the actions of others, until her arguments fell apart, and when they did she started attacking me. I finally argued her into admitting that she did not want to be happy, and deliberately cultivated her circumstances to ensure she wouldn't be.
There ARE people who love conflict, and nastiness, and want to have arguments with others and stew over imagined slights and bad intentions. They enjoy it. Its a form of entertainment. If there is nothing wrong, they will invent something completely disconnected from reality. I didn't understand at my constant striving to make things better for her was actually detrimental to her worldview.
I'm by no means saying you're like this, but yes some people are. Best to just let them enjoy their misery.
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Alexithymia - 147 points.
Low-Verbal.