when did school become difficult for you socially?

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When did school become really difficult for you socially? I was never happy at school, but it became nightmarish around grade 5/6 onward.

(Only people with AS/HFA/not sure/OASD please vote.)

Translation of american grades:

preschool - age 3/4
k -- age 5
1 -- age 6
2 -- age 7
3 -- age 8
4 -- age 9
5 -- age 10
6 -- age 11
7 -- age 12
8 -- age 13
high school age 14-18

Last edited by Apatura on 18 Apr 2007, 10:32 am, edited 1 time in total.

Not really any time, as I've said earlier several times, I was one of the lucky ones, and I'd trade that with any of you guys. Stupid time machines and their not existing...

When I was 12, I was fine in primary school I think.
I didn't answer though because I don't know the American ones... Whichever one is when you're about 12

Go ahead and keep your good experience . I am glad you never suffered. While it destroyed my life in some ways, I think being bullied made me a more empathetic and caring person than I would have been otherwise.

12 years old = 7th grade

School turned BETTER for me socialy in high school, when I joined the lacrosse team

In similar ways, seeing the bad stuff has made me want to improve everyone else's life somehow (I got a real kick in the teeth with one of my early threads, "Did you notice you were different when you were young?"). I resolved it by having a large portion of my story Aspie-centric and intentionally making a major character an Aspie, and having it deal with stuck-up NTs, a near-psychotic mom, and The Cure coming in. I also want to cause a ruckus as CAN!

By nature I want everyone to be happy.

I did not socially interact in KG / Grade 1. I was discribed as "the strangest duck" one of my KG teachers had ever seen in 40 years of teaching because I would not participate, just seemed content to "watch". I remember being ok with this "watching"

I think in trying to draw me out of my shell, they convinced me I wanted to a "part of the action". Only being not very socially skilled, I did not fit in at all! Other kids did not like me at all and I had a terrible time from about grade 2 on, no matter how many times I changed schools! (Exception being a private LD school I went to for 2 years, but I think a lot of us had mild AS or an NLD too).

It was devistating. I think that my "wallflower" personality in large groups was a self defense mechanism. I wish I was left alone!

Second grade, it was very dramatic too. I was in Bluebirds (like the Brownies) in 1st grade and "had friends" was social enough. I was younger though, having been sent to school early. At the same time, I was an early developer and had had my front (baby) teeth knocked out by accident. So, in 2nd grade, I had very crooked teeth, I was very tall and skinny and weird. I had dropped the club I was in because the girls weren't nice to me, I was bullied by popular girls. The regular girls thought I was a pest.
The bully also attended my church (I had belonged to a club through that too) and apparently I was intimidated enough to stop going. I have a block there. Don't remember. That's what frightens me is that I have quite a few memory blocks of 2nd grade, while I have excellent memory of things before and after.

Recess didn't get better until 4th grade when we started forming coed team games like Prison Ball. But school wasn't tolerable for me until high school.

Not sure I remember crying spells at 11 can't remember much before that. All I know is pretty much hate school and childhood. I became reclusive several times. Uni was just as bad. I only had one ok period is school and that was when I went to the American School in Jamaica for 2 years because I hated boarding school and was bulled. In Jamaica I id literally no school work. The only thing I did there was paint a mural and write some poetry/short stories. I miss my creativity I don't know what happened.

My parents said even when I when to the play groups before kindergarten the teachers said I would not follow instructions, ignore the other kids and wonder off. I feel annoyed I wasn’t dx earlier. They took me to 'experts'. I guess it was different in foreign countries they just didn't know. I was born in 82

Last edited by 0_equals_true on 18 Apr 2007, 10:51 am, edited 3 times in total.

I was OK until I went to secondary school (starting age 10/11 in UK). I survived pretty well at primary school, but my classmates all went to different schools, so I was alone in a completely new environment. Never really did recover properly.

In nineth grade, at the age of fifteen. I couldn't handle the peer pressure, so I've cut myself off from my regular classmates and did my own thing, until Graduation Day.

I never played with or joined in with other kids much, and always only watched also. It was like watching a movie that everyone else was in that I couldn't quite figure out. But I didn't realize how odd it was or start to get alot of negative reactions (that I knew of) until 6th grade. From then on it was HELL.

I didn't attend preschool - but had issues immediately starting K. I thought I was very friendly and wanted to play but for some reason was shut out. A few months into K and I was crying and sad about school. Pretty much alot of bullying or at least ostracizing until high school. I found a niche on the fringe by 10th grade so high school had other problems with depression and anxiety but bullying wasn't so much of a problem.

I used be lonely at playtimes (recess)

and now nobody wants to choose at PE.

I did the watch thing, it felt neat because it was like you were the camera in a movie watching everybody do their thing like in a movie. I even pretended I was the camera sometimes. I'd pan around and circle conversations or group activities. I'm pretty sure I got weird looks for that!