Where can I ask questions about autism

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12 May 2016, 1:17 pm

Frist i'm 14yrs old we have a kid new to school here he is autistic i kinda had a run in with him did not know about the autism not even sure what it is anyway its along story but trying to understand and do the right thing
1.was told they take what you say literally
2.they talk in straight terms if that makes senses
3.they melt down if pushed not sure what that means
Have other questions but don't want to sound mean and hope I'm not out of line asking these things

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12 May 2016, 1:24 pm

Cheyenne.m wrote:

This is a good place to ask questions... I have written a blog sereise called "The care and feeding of your aspie"... it is designed to facilitate Autistic Spectrum Individual to Neurotypical communication... I think it might help you with this...

Neurotypical, btw, is the Autistic Term for someone who is in in the scientific norm for brain chemistry and physiology

http://www.savagelightstudios.com/warpedlens/?page_id=2 <-- the series

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12 May 2016, 2:41 pm

Hello. This is indeed a good place to ask your questions, feel free to ask more or ask for clarification.

In response to your questions, every autistic person is different. I for one usually get sarcasm but I am still sometimes confused (I am autistic). In general though we do struggle more with non-literal things then other people so being direct is helpful. Meltdowns also varry from person to person in intensity, frequency, and cause.

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12 May 2016, 3:19 pm

Thanks what is a example of melt down to start

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12 May 2016, 3:24 pm

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Thanks what is a example of melt down to start

It is an overreaction to what the autistic individual believes is wrong (insults, physical touching, change in routines, etc.). Sometimes, meltdowns can get violent, but mostly, they are just loud when the individual gets angry. Alternatively, there are shutdowns where the individual gets very quiet and often leaves to be by himself or herself in silence.

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12 May 2016, 3:36 pm

Thanks he is not mean or hateful but its like you break his heart if that make sense

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12 May 2016, 3:43 pm

Cheyenne.m wrote:

Thanks he is not mean or hateful but its like you break his heart if that make sense

Yep. Great description (better than mine)! Hehe.

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12 May 2016, 3:45 pm

what do they mean by takes everything literay

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12 May 2016, 4:13 pm

Cheyenne.m wrote:

what do they mean by takes everything literay

Example: Last night, we had strawberries and cream for dessert. When I was cleaning up after the meal, my wife pointed to the strawberries saying that since they are greens they should go in the green bin. "Oh ... but they're red", I said, with a wry grin. My wife proceeded to give me a reason why they are considered green, then realized that I was joking. I talked to her later and she said that a non-autistic person wouldn't even consider the color.

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12 May 2016, 4:44 pm

if I'm becoming a pain tell me . The reason I ask this Is, well its kinda dumb Ill give the short version we go to the gym before school if we get there early , I was sitting in the bleachers backwards talking to a new girl and this kid I didn't know came up and sit down and said he liked my boots and ask me about them I told him in a minute cause I was talking, he ask again ,I said the same thing again after the fifth time. I turned around and said see he ask are they padded I just turned and went to talking to the girl again, he ask me again so I turned pulled my boot off and said( here take it.meaning take it and look at it. I turned back to the girl and started to talk again when the bell rang I turned and he was gone with my boot I tried to find him but couldn't so I went to the office they found the kid and ask him if he stole my boot he said no.At lunch he came up and set down with me I ask him why he stole my boot it was like I killed him and he said I didn't your my friend.The principle said he was autistic and it was my word against his
Sorry I guess its not so short of a explanation

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12 May 2016, 5:08 pm

Cheyenne.m wrote:

Well, yeah, that result could happen. Many autists follow known rules. So, if he was told to "take" your boot, and then the bell rang, he had another rule to follow at the same time -- going to his first class. Once you get to know his set of characteristics (each autist has a different set of characteristics), it will become much easier for you. Meanwhile, why not ask him to do certain fun things with you? He might not have many friends. It could be a way to become proficient in autism (like some people learn sign language, because it is cool, even though they don't need to do so). I bet you would both be great friends. After all, you took the time to look into autism a little. Why not learn more by asking him to be friends?

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12 May 2016, 5:26 pm

You're very cool, Cheyenne. You're trying to understand autistic people. I am proud of you for that.

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12 May 2016, 5:30 pm

his Grand parents came to school to day and thanked me for being nice to him, but I really was not I was hateful and called him a thief. We got out early I live on a ranch he came and helped me feed cows. But he still will not discuss my boot he just almost cries. I want it back LOL
If I'm a pain us say so.

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12 May 2016, 5:33 pm

It's your boot. You should talk to him nicely, tell him that you want your boot back, that you really like the boot very much.

You have to teach him about other people's property. You have to teach him to respect other people's things. If he melts down, so what? The kid has to learn these things.

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12 May 2016, 5:40 pm

You're not a pain. You're working hard to learn to communicate with him, and that is wonderful. I'm always grateful when people try to understand me. It's an amazing feeling to think that someone is willing to take the time, and it makes me feel so important and good.

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12 May 2016, 5:42 pm

Cheyenne.m wrote:

I just don't understand, why would you give someone your boot like that?
If I was in his situation, and the bell rang, I would probably panic and not know what to do with the boot if I didn't know where you were.
My advice for the next time is not to give him your boots.

Also, avoid touching him without permission, or screaming/being angry at him/accusing him - it can lead to meltdowns and potential irritable behavior (this happens to me).

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