Do you worry about never finding a partner?

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Do you ever worry about never being able to settle down/ find a wife/husband?

Whilst it is a concern of mine, my sex drive is abnormally low and I am such a self-centred and pessimistic oaf that I have to question why anyone in their right mind would want to be with me. If I were to compare myself to a cartoon character, it would be Eeyore - without his lovable characteristics.

Yes, yes I do.

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No, and I have settled down... alone, which is exactly how I like it.

I used to think I couldn't find anyone, then as I got older I realized a few things that helped enable me to find and have mates, but the thing is they never last vary long before they fail, and all the drama and heartache just wasn't worth it, so I accepted just being alone, although it does help my having a son now to share my life and time with (err until he grows and moves out onto his own), then I do not know what I will do, I could never stand living in an empty home and before when I had to I didn't, instead I gave up all material possessions to live on the road and traveled all the time and kept on the move. I am starting to feel I am getting to old for that too, but, I could never stand an empty home, it drove me batty.

Yes, because I'm afraid that I would have really high standards and never be able to date someone that doesn't meet my standards exactly. Also, I'm afraid that I'd lose attraction for my partner after a while.

^For me it's not about how rich they are or anything, it's more about their morals and if they like the things I like.

Yep. It's also very embarrassing to be my age and have not even been married once and have no kids. My patients can't figure out why it is and my co-workers wonder what's wrong and I'm sure my neighbors think I'm weird. I can't figure it out either. Now I couldn't have a family if I wanted one and I've been alone for so long, that changing that would be extremely scary. I'm also not the touch-feely kind of gal that some men would probably want. I see everyone else doing it and I wonder how come I can't. It's just too hard to get close to anyone so I don't. Then I hear all of the horror stories and I don't want any extra drama. I don't know what to do because I don't want to grow old alone, but the unknown is just too scary to face right now - so I don't.

I had a patient this weekend tell me about this dating site called "Christian Mingle". Two of her family members went on there and found a nice husband. I know I would want someone with some morals and no drinking (since I quit). I may give it a try and see what happens.

I do sometimes think about it but not that much right now, I'm sure it'll start getting on my mind more as I get older. At the moment I think a relationship would be too much too deal with. But when I think about the future, I'm having a hard time accepting that I'll find someone. I don't think I'd do well with most women... And finding the right one that I would like to settle down with seems pretty much impossible.

This is what's infuriating. I evidently already had set up an account with Christian Mingle in the past. The reason I stopped was because I keep getting men that I'm not the least bit attracted to. The other ones won't say a thing. I guess I'm going to have to be the one to say something. Time to do some shopping, I guess. I'm used to shopping on QVC. Crap.