Do you worry about Self Awareness?

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I feel this is a worry I have. I feel that since I am autistic I may be more prone to this stuff happening and me not realising the implications of my behavior. Do many of you here have this worry?

Last edited by Shahunshah on 01 Dec 2016, 3:38 am, edited 1 time in total.

Are you talking about a lack of self awareness? As in you don't know/understand how you and your appearance and behavior appears to others?

Yes that would be it.

Both Self-awareness, and awareness of what is happening around me so, I mean both.

Yes I do. I think it turned into an anxiety disorder in my case. When I was a kid and a teenager I jut did what I wanted and didn't care what anyone thought. But as I entered my 20s I realised that I wasn't keep friends an I couldn't find a boyfriend and I began to realise that something about me was different.

Now I know that I don't behave like a regular person I'm always second guessing myself.

my self-awareness of my other-awareness deficits let me to become a hermit to protect both parties.

I space out all the time, but I'm pretty aware of it. I rock back and forth but I'm pretty aware of it. I pace all the time and yes again I'm pretty aware of it. If given free reign I talk about my favorite topic which is language and mental health I'm aware of it and take steps to avoid it.
Who aren't aware of their behavior are normal people:neurotypicals those people are "themselves" individuals, who rarely analyze the way they themselves behave. I think there must be some special hardware in the normal human brain that prevents self understanding.

It seems to me that a certain lack of self-awareness is optimal for psychological health. Actually, I don't think "self-awareness" is the correct term. It's awareness of other people's reactions to ourselves that's the issue: other-awareness or maybe social awareness.

Yeah, I'm not quite sure what people mean by self-aware?
I do think a lot about my thought processes and stuff, but I have a hard time judging how I come across in social contexts.

I agree with this statement, people can't be playing the game well when they are constantly second guessing themselves.

Only when I am having anxiety when someone has misjudged me or misunderstood my intentions and when I got accused of something that isn't true.

I do think this is a good thing to worry about because it makes you think about your behavior and makes you think how it might come off to others and you can change your approach. But this anxiety was very bad when I was in 4th-6th grade because I cared too much what others thought of me so it made me have social anxiety only around certain kids in my school. Then I felt I had to walk on eggshells and watch my body language, watch my face, watch my moves, talk less, etc. and it was very stressful so I can understand what it means when aspies say it's exhausting to be normal. I felt I could only be my true self at home or in my own classroom because none of those kids were around. But yet I obsessed about normal behavior and what is good behavior and bad behavior, etc. and trying to teach myself things like what it means to show off since I was given that accusation and reading about being a sore loser or a poor sport and it was helping me figure out how I should act. Once I quit caring what others thought of me and who liked me or not, this anxiety went away and my obsession about normality.

Too self aware if anything I think; totally self-conscious, no confidence, lack of self-esteem. I am more in my head than anybody, it's not good.

Yes, because a lot of people have treated me differently or bullied me. I also feel like I get misinterpreted a lot by others and sometimes I don't realize it until it's too late.

it is like the outcasts are made the scapegoats for everything

I don't let people bully me anymore. It's not just an aspie thing to be overly self aware. Cause as we see, and I have seen in real life, some can be totally unaware of how they come across.

Me too. It feels terrible. I have to be 100% responsible for communication, otherwise people looking for subtext and assuming things will almost inevitably create a misunderstanding without even noticing what they've done.

Even shrinks have done this to me, and then one of those shrinks had the nerve to put in my neuropsych report that I'm overly alert to language.

It's exhausting.