Do NTs Perceive You as Intellectually Disabled?

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Throughout my life, I've been labeled a plethora of insults. The one I despise the most is people thinking I have an intellectual disability. I have Dyspraxia and my hands shake often. I also have a difficult time enunciating certain sounds and performing basic motor functions. Due to this tragic flaw, people treat me as though I'm lacking in the cognitive department. Occasionally, it takes me a few moments to process what was said to me. Is every NT this ignorant. If I took a shot Everytime people have spoken to me like I was braindead, I'd be long gone.

yes, im having the same problem, through out my life people have litteraly spoken to me as if i was a dog or a special creature, both by kids and adults. And that, being spooken too like a far inferior, is the most acceptance i've acvieved in my life. I must say it autism, is surely a curse for me, it's both affecting my psyke deeply disturbing me, and my neurological system inflicting physical pain, and having poor control over my body.

I have moderate autism that looks more severe and dyspraixa. So there's the autism posturing and stimming plus the cerebral palsy like motor function problem that also affects my ability to speak. So I get talked to that way, when talking to me like an ordinary person is preferred. Aspies have done this to me as well so it's not just an NT thing. Not that it doesn't bother me, but I have to chalk it up as just being human nature.

Many people during my earlier life saw me as being intelligent, but couldn't figure out why I got poor grades and had poor peer relations at school. But the psychiatrist who diagnosed me with Asperger's in 2001 thought at first that I was "mildly mentally ret*d". She later decided I couldn't be because I was "too smart".

Now that they know my diagnosis? All the time. I'm officially funny in the head; they're not. Therefore, they have authority over me about anything, because they can always invoke common sense, which is necessarily on their side. Even when they contradict one another, or their earlier selves.

Give people a way to subjugate you and they will.

My experience is that people don't expect girls or young women to be more than average in intelligence. If one is a female who is deficit in facial expressions and social aesthetics the effect is even more pronounced.

I recall when I was a teenager, asking the doctor if I might have heliobacter pylori. He was quite taken that a teenaged girl would know that term.

I’ve never actually thought way about women. I used to envious of the girls in my English classes. They were intelligent to me; a few of them seemed like prodigies.

My parents treated me like I was a social misfit more than like I was intellectually disabled. I was called ret*d by kids.....but I never thought they saw me as intellectually disabled.

It was more that I was “socially ret*d.”

If I'd said that, they sure as hell wouldn't have let it slide without going out of their way to highlight my inferiority as a dumb, ignorant kid talking with an adult who knows their s**t.

Sometimes "dumb, ignorant" kids know their s**t too and the adult is going to have to find a way to cope with that.

No.

Quite the contrary - I've been told that I'm a smart young man.

I wonder in what universe that ever happens. My experience is that authority figures (or anyone at all, but I digress) never have to reason with you; they'll just remind you of their authority in increasingly unpleasant ways till you're forced to shut up in shame.

It’s just not as simple as that....

Not "every NT" acts like that

But many do

Misconception

WTF is heliobacter pylori?

I am pretty sure that if ….I....., a middle aged man, were to say that to a doctor, that the doctor would be dumbfounded. That's because I am a medical layman.


Your doc was amazed because you were a teenager (on top of being a layperson). I seriously doubt that your gender figured into his reaction. If anything a grown up might expect a highschool girl to be more booksmart than guys her age.

Not saying that that kind of prejudice against females may not exist. Just that that particular anecdote is not evidence of such.

Sometimes yeah in the times I was foolish enough to reveal having an asd.