How many of you are married?

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I myself have never dated, mainly due to social isolation because of my tics (weird behaviors).
moving my lips so that it appears as if i talk to myself, but in fact I'm absent minded.
sometimes I get excited/angry I start to do weird gestures with my hands.

I've stopped doing it in public now.

I find myself interested in talking to people.

I am engaged and we're supposed to be getting married this spring but obviously that's out of the question thanks to China.

I always knew I wanted to get married. I finally achieved it in my mid-30s. I have been happily married ever since to a fellow Aspie.

I'm sorry to hear that but don't let it get you down. My husband and I had to get married half a year later than we had wanted because one incompetent clerk messed up everything for me and my husband, who's from a different country and needed extra paperwork, and as a result we had to postpone our wedding.

In the end we had a really nice wedding and waiting another half year wasn't that bad as we were living together anyway, as I believe so are you and your boyfriend. It'll just give you more time to plan and look forward to it.

There should have been the option, "Yes, but I wish I wasn't"

I picked "Divorced" because there wasn't an option for Separated. My husband and I split in 2010 when he made the decision to transition to female. We lived apart until 2013 when it was in our best interests to live together again (long story). So we've been living together since then but we have separate rooms. My mum is pressing me to start the divorce process because I stand to inherit a lot when my parents pass away and she doesn't want my ex to get any of it.

I’m married.

My brother is divorced twice, and now living with someone longterm. My mother feels the same way. She's already written in her Will that she doesn't want his current partner to have any claim on her house / assets when she dies. Who knows if that's binding or not but it's in her Will. I would definitely get the divorce since it's likely straight forward paperwork, assuming you have no children or issues to contest.

Yes - for the third time.

I am a little amazed that 56% of us are married. I only married for the first time a few days after my sixtieth birthday.

I wonder if female Aspies are more likely to be married than male Aspies. I married an NT woman.

For whatever it is worth, people with Asperger's have a higher rate of Gender Identity Disorder than NTs.

Did you not want to stay with her once she transitioned? What she Aspie also?

Why do you wish you were not married?

I'm not married and I've never been in a relationship but if I meet the right person, I might go for it and get married. I wouldn't be interested in a huge ceremony but like I said, it all depends on if I ever meet somebody I want to take that big step with.

I both have never even dated and have no interest in doing so, highly doubt I'll ever get married and know I'll probably be happier that way. And for the record, I'm female.

I am married. Like many ASD folks I found a minority - so we could relate to each other that way, and it's funny b/c, like me, he doesn't understand many idioms (me b/c of ASD, him b/c it's his second language/culture) --- so, again --- we relate (and clarifying everything is required, not "weird"). I also think he has ASD in his family (albeit not him), so in that way I may have been "familiar" to him.

My ASD-like BFF didn't have her first date until her mid 30s, but has had several partners since then. She is in a long-term relationship, with shared financial obligations, but not technically married.

Wishing you well for this area of interest...

My daughter flaps a lot, and I envision her having a partner if she desires. Already when asked by peers about her tics she confidently says: "This is how I express excitement..." (or stress, or whatever). In my day, I would have hung my head in shame (or not known how to respond). I wish there was a switch inside to know that I am worthy - hopefully EMDR will help me and how to navigate the world accordingly. I'll keep pushing around here and there and maybe one day I'll trip over it.

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