What's your least favorite neurotypical saying?

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Personally I hate sayings like "It is what it is" and "Sometimes you've gotta do things you don't want to." They're so dismissive and make me feel bad for asking questions. A runner up is "Wash rinse and repeat" because as a child I thought my mom was telling me to infinitely wash my hair and then she would get mad that I took an hour and used half a bottle of shampoo.

It is what it is.
Of course, otherwise it'd be something else.

"God told me to tell you . . ."

"Cheer up, it'll never happen."

"I know how you feel" or "I know what you're thinking".

(Wrong on both counts!)

"Hate to say I told you so."

"Can I ask you a question?"
(I don't know, can you?)

"May I ask you a question?"
(You just did.)

"I could care less."
(That means you do care, if only a little.)

"Like eeenniiittttt"

"Too bad, so sad."

"Suck it up, buttercup."

When they try to read your expression and say, "[Your name] is like, [bad description of what they think you're thinking]."

I just call these human sayings, because I've heard people on this site use these too, in fact overuse them, especially "It is what it is". That gets said a lot here and it's frustrating.

"Ignore them" is another annoying piece of advice that I often get. Due to ADHD I find ignoring extremely hard to do. I used to ignore bullies at high school but unknowingly the resentment just built up inside me and has made me become a self-conscious, socially anxious adult with zero tolerance for such inappropriateness aimed directly at me.
Also ignoring upsetting posts on internet sites is hard too. By ignoring, the abuser might think you haven't seen it, or might just abuse you further for not standing up for yourself. Bullies offline are notorious for doing that. Have I ever told you the story of the girl who ignored bullies and they just didn't stop until they actually got to her? It went on for a year or so, and when the bullies got frustrated because she wasn't reacting or showing any signs of being upset, they started to stalk her and then they set fire to her house.
Silly playground teasing is easy to ignore and they usually get tired of it and leave you alone. Real bullying is much harder to deal with, and by ignoring them can lead to horrific results.

"Handsome is as handsome does".

That was what a female eighth grade teacher once said to the girls in the class.

Even if I "translate" it into my own heterosexual male terms (something like "beauty is as beauty does") I STILL cant decipher what that sentence means.

You need to understand...

That's life....I hate that one.