What do you say when people tell you to find a girlfriend?

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It sucks when people tell you to find a girlfriend, but it sucks even more when they chuckle after they tell you to find a girlfriend - ie: they don't really care if you have or don't have a girlfriend; they just want to remind you how pathetic you are and have a laugh at your expense.

I tell them to find me a girlfriend. What do you tell them?

That's awful. I'm sorry if you've had to experience that.

You wouldn't f*****g believe how many times people told me I should get a girlfriend, as if I never considered the possibility before and they are the first to ever bring it up, and as if I can just go out and get any girl I want. But worse of all, I am not attracted to older girls at all, and by older, I mean post-pubescent . . .
So that just makes it much more annoying always hearing that from people every other damn day.

I am female...

But when people tell me to get a boyfriend, I say..."Well if you can find someone who wants to be with me, then sure".

Don't let them do that to you!
You can use these techniques:

scratched record: you repeat the same thing they said
"You need to find a girlfriend", you answer "I need to find a girlfriend", BUT, you say it in the same tone they said it.
If they add something like "yeah, find one", you just repeat "yeah, I need to find a girlfriend", but, again, saying it as if you don't care.
Repeat as necesary.
They eventually will become tired and leave you alone.

another technique: "clouds".
When they say "You need to find a girlfriend",
you answer "yeah" or something similar, as if you don't care, as if you just read it loud, hope I explained myself.
They eventually will become tired and leave you alone.

Last edited by computerlove on 27 Oct 2007, 4:47 pm, edited 1 time in total.

People never tell me to find a girlfriend, but if they did I'd be confused and point out to them that I'm a heterosexual female.

Do what you want... sorry couldn't be more help but yeah - just do what you want.

am female and asexual.
get asked this a lot [about boyfriends] and hate it.

if am able to speak,say to them, 'am asexual',the reply is either, "so that's being gay then' or 'don't bother thinking about it,too immature for them now,but will get a boyfriend eventually",useless with replying with anything to that.
pillocks.

people have actually stoped tellling me this. i guess they finally relise there just wasting there time

I still get told this by the people I haved tried to explain my conditon to. I would love to get a girlfriend, as much as I like me time, company wouldn't be too much to ask sometimes. But actually going up to a girl and asking her out is something I have never been able to do. The line of communication between brain and mouth is severed somewhere. I can tell my friends that I like a girl, but the next step is too big. This is one of the things that led me to WP.

If someone could find me a girl hard-skinned enough to cope with me, then fine, but I suspect the number of them is limited.

Tell them to concentrate on their own happiness, and when their life is perfect, then they can come back to you.

I just pretend to be far too career minded, and say a boyfriend would get in the way of my djing/studying/writing whatever. People understand that better than if I try to explain that most men make me feel suffocated.

This pisses me off whenever it happens to me.

I frequently respond with "because your mother prefers one night stands." Not very creative, but it gets it off that topic.

One thing makes me wonder a lot, or annoys me...

Often people ask me: "Do you have a boyfriend?" I answer no.
That question doesn't annoy me, but it really does when they then ask: "Why?"!
I mean: What do they suppose me to answer?!?
Often I answer: "Does there really have to be a reason for that?" Or: "Why do I have to give an account of that? If I said yes, you wouldn't ask why, wouldn't you?" Or: "Do I really need to have one?"
I could also say, because I haven't met one, but it doesn't matter, and if I find one, that's fine, and if not, that's fine too. But often I'll be too annoyed to just answer that ("nice"?) way.
Sometimes I have answered, it's because I've never really been in love, and maybe I'm not able to (but still, it doesn't matter). Then some may answer: "Oh yes of course you can, all people can, you just have to be open..."
(But I said it doesn't matter! In fact, I get tired just by the thought that I should try to find a boyfriend, have never had one and am not really interested in finding one, even though I can't exclude it might happen one day. It's just not a big issue. Maybe it's kind of an aspie thing? I know it's not that way for all aspies at all, but maybe it can be kind of a social issue thing that shows this way in some aspies?)

Maybe this would be the perfect answer, especially to a guy who is a bit too obtrusive:
"No, and that's because I'm an autistic psychopath, so take care!! !"
(Because "autistic psychopathy" was Hans Asperger's term for the condition he described.)

Mvh. EdnaPenna.

I've also just started to think about my psychologist asking me why I didn't have a boyfriend, as though that was totally weird when I was only fifteen!! !

"I found yours last night."

I think (s)he's the one to be weird here!
(I'm 29, by the way... )